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I have been blessed with good friends. I'm not the kind of person who NEEDS to chat on the phone to my best friend every day. I'm self-sufficient but still have lots of friends. Maybe I've been a bit too hermit-y lately. I love my buddies but some are going weird on me.
Last night, a friend called to ask me to her husband's birthday party tonight. Just a BBQ with friends. And by the way, she'd like me to meet their friend, Rob who just got divorced...RED ALERT! At that point, it was profuse apologies from me that I've got something else to do tonight.
This morning, I get an email from someone else about a speed dating club. The kind where you are in a big group and talk to someone for 5 minutes before you move to the next one. YEWWW!!! No...
Another friend has taken to referring to my WH as my X.
I know I'm about 10 months past D-Day but I am just not ready for this yet. I suppose my friends are ready for me to move on. Perhaps they interprete the fact that I'm not in a crisis or tears every day as meaning I am ready. Not one of them thinks things are going to work out in our marriage. Maybe they know something I don't but golly, I'm just not there yet. Hello, I am still married.
Does this happen to anybody else?
Grapes are versatile. Grapes can be sour, sweet, sublime as wine and fabulous even when old and dried out.
Me: BS
XCH: Clueless
2-DS: Bigger than me
1-DD: Now also bigger than me!
5/6: Personally served CH with divorce papers
6/6: CH F? wants to time to see if M can be saved
7/6: FCH reenters our lives to work on marriage but secretly signs papers to start divorce...what's that about?
Mediation set for November
Final dissolution in January 2007.
2008 and beyond: Life goes on...
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I don't have that happening, but I do have friends that do not believe my marriage can be save, along with all of my in-laws who think the same. I guess they are just "supporting" WH, but still, there is a change to save it, so please tell him he should "talk to OW if he is so miserable". It is just so frustrating.
BW - me - 35
WH - 35
together 18 yrs, married 10yrs
2 DD - ages 5, 2
d-day 1 - 9/25/04 (EA)
d-day 2 - 6/2/05 (PA same OW)
NC (in person) - 7/14/05 - but accidently bumps into at work
NC broken 8/30 after exposure
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I suppose my friends are ready for me to move on. Perhaps they interprete the fact that I'm not in a crisis or tears every day as meaning I am ready. Not one of them thinks things are going to work out in our marriage. Maybe they know something I don't but golly, I'm just not there yet. Hello, I am still married.
Maybe they see you as already being "emotionally" divorced. Some people seem to think that it is ok to date as long as someone is no longer "emotionally" married.
You are adamant that you are still married...do you mean legally? emotionally?
So...what do you think?
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Yeah, this sort of happens to me......even tho WH still lives here.
My own DD said "Why do you stay with him (WH), Mom? You can find someone else."
Me: "I don't think I want to get another man."
DD: "Mom, you're HOT!!!! You could get anyone you want!"
Me: "I think you're confusing hot flashes with HOT!"
And like you said, Grapegirl.....HELLO......I'm still married!
I think in this world of throw away relationships, people just assume you would immediately want to move on!
I think it's a sick, sad world out there.
K
AKA UnMoved
Me55
WH 53
Married 34 years
Son 32; Daughter 30
A for 5 years or ? WHO KNOWS???
D-Day May 15, 2004
D finally final Friday, October 13, 2006
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I am kind of young and my friends are, lets just say of the vengeful sort. So yeah everyone is like you WW is the biggest (you can fill in the colorful adjective here). You should move on, you'll get over. So when are you getting divorced? I am like the same way "HELLO I AM STILL MARRIED".
My family is starting to come to the point where they know I do not want to really get a divorce so they will except my choice. But yeah they too were all fire and brimstone towards her to begin with.
What ever happened to working things out even if it takes, i don't know the rest of our lives since that is what we vowed to do?
AHHHHH more venting sorry.
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