Its been almost 2 months since i found out about my H's A. He called me on Saturday and i missed his call. Today i heard my cell ring and i jumped and it was him. He was so excited to her me and i was so excited just to talk to him. This was the first chance in almost 2 months he has gotten a chance to call anyone. Unfortuantly we didnt get to tell each other we loved each other he told me he had a minute on his phone card and the next second i was talking to myself on the phone. I mean in conversation i told him i loved him and he told me he loved me but we end every convo. we have in "i love you" It was just so great to hear his voice after this whole thing with OW. He is currently in Iraq. Im am just so tickled we talked. I didnt want to talk about what happened bc he does have alot on his shoulders but I did tell him that Im hoping he is keeping NC w/ her. He is talking about our future together about getting a house of our own when he is in the military. Depends tho on if he re-enlists. Just thought i'd share! It sure did make my day a whole heck of alot better!

Oh this must be very difficult for you to not be able to hash it out and get closure... I am so sorry.

I hope he comes home soon to work it out and make you feel at ease.

That is great that you got to talk to him.

Me and my H were talking today about him going to Iraq. He found out this past weekend that he will be gone to Colorado for 2 months starting Nov. and then onto Iraq in Jan. He should get to come home for Thanksgiving and Christmas.

That is going to be so hard to not be able to talk to him. I know in hearing from you that you don't get to talk to him very often. How often does he get email access? This will be my first deployment to deal with and I am sure it will be very hard, especially with everything else going on in our life. I just hope we can communicate alot before he goes. He asked me today if I was going to be here when he gets back. I told him I plan on it as long as he still wants me to be. I know he will be going through so much over there. I want to be a good support for him. As long as he is still trying in the marriage, I don't want him to be worry about losing me while he is in Iraq.

Best of luck with your upcoming move. It sounds like your and your H are heading in the right direction to make your marriage work. Thanks for all your suggestions and comments. I appreciate it. I am glad to have someone to chat with who understands.

Take care!

Its is very hard not to just yell and scream at him, i try not to do that bc he does have alot going on. I just got done writing him an email telling him how happy i was and that it made my day and i hope he starts calling me more often then before. I know its very limited but just hope he calls more.
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This is my first deployment too. I dont think my H realizes that iraq has a huge role on what he did but its still not making it right for what he did. I know exactly what you are going to go through wondering if he is alright from day to day or am i going to get an email from him. He usually gets to check his email about every 3-4 days. Its so nice getting an email but even better hearing his voice. It just makes your day even more the better trust me you'll see. That stinks he has to go to training before he leaves but glad he will get to come home for the holidays. Thanksgiving will be hard but christmas will be better having him home. Moving forward and getting away from what happened. This has nothing to do with affairs but when he is gone make sure you participate in the FRG's they make life easier and help along w/ whats going on w/ your H. Just a bit of helpful info from someone who is going through this. If you have any questions feel free to ask me! I will do my best to help. Take care and best of luck to you and your husband. ~ronaile