After many many many questions to my FWH...
I thought of one I have not asked him (wow...amazing)

Why he chose to stay with me over OW?
(OW would have done (did) everything to have him)

Is it bad to ask this question...?

Should I re-open the can of worms???

Thanks for your input!!!

PA,

You sound like me.I want an answer to every question i come up with.Sometimes i even put it in different.
I would not ask the question.Hes there because he loves you.He knows he made a huge mistake.Just let him make up for it.
Gee i hope to follow this advice. I tell myself all the time does it matter,hes with me he loves me.hes sick to his stomach over what he has done.He has changed in so many ways.Does this work not yet.I just keep repeating it and hope one day it will work.
I know its hard.I think us BS just want to hear how much we are loved and how sorry they are for hurting us.

#1mom

I ended up asking him...
(it was just on my heart...)

I guess #1 we are at very similar places...
(our posts parallel each other...)

Wishing you all the best in your recovery!
K

PA,
Did you get the answer you wanted?Sometimes i think i ask just to hear the answer even thou i know it.
I still ask dumb questions.I don't know what it is or why it matters.I think since it took a while for the truth to come out i still question all his answers about the A.I don't on the other hand question his love for me,or how guilty he feels for what he has done.
Why do you think we keep up with the question?

I also put thoughts in my head of thinking of them in the sitsuration.Even thou hes says it did'nt last long,they never were fully undressed.when they were donr they talked for a few mins and he left.See it was at her house a few times in in her car.I can't see having her house to themselves and not fully undressing.He says her daughter was upstairs,they did'nt have much time,and that they both were embarressed of there bodies.Basically she was undress from waist down my H shiry was un button and his pants pulled down.DOes this make sence.sorry to be forward.I just want to know someones opinion.This bugs me sooooo much.I don't even know why this matter now.
I guess these past cuople of days have been hard on me.
You think since i know there was no love on either part it would be easier.But its not.well i will talk to you later.

#1mom

I have not asked that particular question because the A ended soon after her H came back from Iraq. I also wonder if the sex with her was enjoyable. I just wonder how honest the answers would be, ya' know?

I have asked a tons of others.

One night while I was on a roll I asked if she had big boobs. The answer was yes. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrr!