Me and my WW have been trying to work out our marriage after an EA over the internet about a year ago. It seemed as though we were getting along much better. Then about a couple months ago it seemed to go downhill again. She started to say the same crazy words she had told me a year ago...She needs a seperation and she needs some time to think. I imediatly was suspicious. I told her we should stay together and sort through how she is feeling and continue to work on the marriage. She agreed, but said she didn't think it can work. I then asked her why she started to have these strong feelings again....My wife then told me that her friend from Hawaii knew of the OM. She then gave me some story that she found out that he was in a relationship himself. At first she was resentful toward me because she wanted to be his girl. But relieved at the same time that she could move forward with her life...but she says she still felt the same way toward me, as far as not trying to work it out...I just don't get it. If he is out of the picture what's the problem. THEN just today I found birth control pills in her car. She gave me some lame excuse that they were for controlling her "period"...am I supposed to buy that!! She stuck to her story...so I tried to be understanding and calm so I did not make an argument over it. I don't know what to do....I want this marriage to work but after a year I am emotionally drained...I am trying my best but it just doesn't seem good enough...Any good words, advise and encouragment would be appreciated.