Hi all...
I have previouly visited this site within the last 6 months jut reading...
I now need advice myself...Which I should have asked for advice long b4 my marriage got to this...
Ok here goes...I am 24 years old, Have been married 5 1/2 years...We have a 4 year old special needs son...
In the last 1 1/2 years my husband has not been there for us "emotionally"...He started hanging around with a younger crowd again, always with the guys, playing softball, fishing, hunting, golf...Family was the last thing on his mind...HE pushed me and his son away...Never there when I needed him the most for emotinal support thru our sons sickness'...The last 6 months have been even worse...To the point that I told him I wanted to leave, he said he did not want to loose his family and would try harder...For a couple of weeks he did, then it went back to how it was before...
THEN HERE IS WHERE I AM WRONG...In late March I met this guy online...We started chatting, I then connected with his brother and his brothers fiance...We all talked for a couple of months....They are bothin the military...The fiance cheated, and I was there for BOTH her and the guy...And THEN it happened...Neither of us expected it to happen this way...But it did...So here I am...
Unhapily married, my husand knows I am, and knows my plans to leave...But we stay together...Mostly b/c of convience, money...
This "guy" tells me he does not want me to leave hubby for him, that I need to do it on my own when im ready...But he does want us to be together WHEN I do that...
Im in love with someone from online, that I havent met...We plan on meeting within the next couple of weeks...
I have a decision to make...SOON...I dont think my husband deserves to be wronged...I havent been able to look him in the eyes, tell him I love him, we arent physcial with each other...Which he was never that way to me b4, but I have now started to pull away...
I can see my life with this other man...
THe hardest thing is getting children involved...I have my son, and he has 2 kids taht he is raising...So we are thinking of the kids thru all this...
We are suppose to be meeting soon...We had planned on NOT meeting until I left and filed for divorce, BUT our feelings on that has changed...We both have talked and dont plan on being "sexual" b/c I am still married...We both know it is wrong...But the "emotions" are there, we cant hide that...
I have read advice on EA...And I have never even felt I should stop talking to him...I never enen considered thatI was haveing a "emotional affiar" until this site...
Im at a loss...I know WHAT I want...I had planned on leaving hubby b4 this guy came into the picture...I prepared myself for it emotionally...I do have a feeling that once we meet, I WILL leave to be with him and move out to be with him and his kids...
When do I tell hubby? Do I tell him? What happens next?
I know I am wrong...Thats why Im looking here for advice b4 I make this LIFE changing decision, b/c ALOT of people will be affected by this...
Thanks..I look forward to hearing from all of you...
