Hi, I am a FWW. i just saw your story. i read tired dads' post from today (or was it yesterdays...) and my heart went out to him. i feel so bad about all the pain i have caused my H. then i read that you post here too and so i looked back and found more of both of your stories.

my heart also goes out to you and so i just wanted to reach out to you. at times i wish my H would be here but i have to admit at times i am thankful he is not. i think it allows me to have a easier opportunity to learn. although i still would prefer he was here too.

i read you were maybe going to stop posting here and i just wanted to tell you, i hope you don't stop. there really is so much to learn here. it's been a God send for me.

if i can help you in anyway, i would really like too. i hate that i have something in common with you, namely, i cheated on my H, but i do have that in common with you and if i can use it to help you, i would like to.

it's really tough being a FWW around here sometimes but at the same time it is very heartwarming to see so many kind people, people that have been hurt so badly, want to help.

I like FL am the FWW and I too think it will be good if you keep coming here.

You are showing alot of courage wanting to do the right thing and fix things, it it will be a hard journey as you will probably have to do alot of things you don't like, which is tough when for years you may have been feeling like that.

But with hard work and sacrifice comes good things. And like FWW, sometimes reading what BS's write can be hard to take or hear, but remember they can also be useful posts to read to understand exactly what your H is going through and they can give you advice on how you can help your H to heal AND to change based on what they have been through and needed their FWS's to do.

There are many others here like FL and I that can support you, and still give you advice, although some of it you may not want to hear at the time...but stuff that will really help YOU heal and change which encourages your H to heal and change as well.

((HUGS))

bumping up in case you are lurking out there

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