Basically, I am asking the experts how long is Plan B. And should I move to another town.

Situation: D-Day 8-18-04. After the initial shock, I got into Plan A. A pretty good Plan A I thought. Spent more time with WW, got a new house together, etc.. She sent married OM NC letter on 1-04-05. OF course, he contacts her and they get together "1 last time" 1-09-05. WW claimed she had NC throughout Jan-Feb. I found out in MArch otherwise.

So, WW keeps vacilating. OM keeps telling her he'll wait for her (meanwhile he tells his BW no truth and that the A is over).

Forward to now, WW planned to leave all along. She continuted to lie about contact and said "just needed freedom". Typical Fog crap!!!

So I sent her a Plan B letter. And she got a little mad, but she has not contacted me. We are selling the house now and it is 15 days in Plan B.

It is very hard without her as we were close and have so much history and joint business together, but getting easier. I have a great job opportunity out of state. Should I take it? I have a 15 year old son who does not want to move however and will stay with WW if given choice. If I stay he will stay with me.

Second question. How is it possible to determine if Plan B is working? I guess right now she seems pretty happy because she can contact OM whenever she wants.

But, I still believe she will ultimately see what life without me is like (difficult finances, ) and also that this OM may not leave his BS.

Thanks a lot to any help on these issues!

Chris

I am asking the experts how long is Plan B
Two years.

How is it possible to determine if Plan B is working?
What do you mean by "if Plan B is working"? What do you expect to happen if it is working?
I know what should happen, I'm asking you so see if you know.

IMHO, you should remain in state mainly for the psychological well-being of your son. That's too much upheaval for him.

How great is the job, and how far away is it?

Have you let OM's wife know the truth? That the affair is still continuing?

When I went to Plan B, my WH tried contacting me constantly for the first few weeks. Then I heard nothing for 4 months, when he called me at work and said he was moving back in. Unfortunately he still had OW, and I had to go to court to keep him out.

I have been in Plan B 18 months. I will see my WW for the first time in approximately 7 months tomorrow for a mandatory property settlement conference.

I have moved on with my life but my mere presence here attests to the fact that a 7 year marriage is not easy to walk away from(at least not from my side of the equation)

Best of luck. From my retrospectroscope( new medical device), Plan B is the only way to go.