How are things going with you? I just wanted to make sure you were doing ok.

grove, you must have ESP. Confronted my WW this morning. Told her that I have one need that must be met. Told her to admit the A orAs or we are going to take a polygraph. She said that there was nothing to admit but she would not now nor ever take a polygraph. If that was a deal breaker then I needed to do what I needed to do.

Going to the lawyer tomorrow to get the papers drawn up and filed. Just going to serve her because there is going to be no agreement on my part. We are going to fight for the children and assets. In my state, marital property can be divided on marital fault grounds especially if one person earned most of it.

Going to be ****** for several months but I cannot do it any other way. Hope your situation works out. I will keep posting as things happen.

Bob,

I am so sorry. I expect that I will be in the same shape after tomorrow. My daughter is spending the night at grandma's tomorrow night and I expect the wife and I to have a long discussion.

I'm not looking for details as much as a committment to work on the marriage, I believe the details will come if she's serious about making a go of this.

Since I've already been this route with her before, I don't expect there to be any change in her behavior. We'll see.

Stay in touch and let me know if I can help in any way.

I forgot to ask you. Besides not admitting to the details of the affair, how is your wife behaving towards you? Does she show you affection, treat you in a loving way, etc . . ?

If so, are you sure you want to go this route? I'm not trying to make you feel worse about your decision, I just want you to make sure this is what you really want to do. If she's trying in every way except the details, is there any way you can live with it?

Take care and good luck.

just added:

Did you or your wife talk to SH? I was curious what he said during your conversations.

My wife, called and made an appointment to talk to SH. I'm very happy, but I think she did it to get me to give her residential custody for school residence. I told her I would be willing to do this if she called SH and, if and only if, she was doing it to help save our marriage. So today she called me at work and informed me she had called and made an appointment for tomorrow morning. If Steve can break through just a little bit, I think we might have a shot at turning this around.

How are you doing????

Hey Bob,

Just wanted to see if you were ok.