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My 16 yr old step daughter is talking about sex on her instant messager. My wife told me this. She has "friends with benifits", which I was told, sex w/o feelings. I believe that her actions should be monitored. I want to install a keylogger software on the computer to do this. I do not want to tell her, so it can be stealth. Is this wrong to do? Is it a violation of her rights? Or is it a good parenting practice? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />
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[color:"green"] [/color] <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> I'm new here but I would monitor what she does without her knowlege as the internet is dangerous nowadays for anyone exspecially a child...
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Monitor her chat until you get a picture of what's going on, then print it all out, to be used as a platform for a long and serious talk w/her about pregnancy, STD's, predators and all that can go wrong w/a teenager having casual sex.
I would not divulge to her that you installed a keylogger, just tell her you used her computer and the chat box "just came up" and you saw some of her chats...
Consider third party counseling too, as teenagers don't give their parents much credit for intelligence, not like they would give credibility to an outside third party.
Just my 2 cents...
SD
Last edited by shattered dreams; 09/03/05 03:22 PM.
BH - me 53, ONS 1979
FWW - 51, 2 EA's, 1 PA
Last D-Day, Sep. 30, 2003
Last Contact/recovery began 2-26-04
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Seems like a similar-type question was posted to the (I think) admirable and respectable Dr. Laura and I agreed w/ her response that YOU are the parent and while she is a minor, it is YOUR job (and her other parent's jobs) to protect her. I would be stealth collecting the information and would not divulge using the keylogger. I agree with Shattered Dreams on all counts.
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FWH 39
M 1992; DD 18. 13
OC 8-05 - no contact
In recovery 8 years
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