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NC has been going on for about 3 weeks. OW finally got the message, but today ow's mother emailed my FWH. They had fished together once. The email was about ow and a discussion she was having with relatives about how bad things were. I don't know if ow mother knew about affair, but do you think there is a need to expose to ow's mother at this point? Would it seem vindictive or is it necessary? Thanks in advance dear wise ones.


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Michele, yes I would tell her the truth. She needs to stop emailing your H so he can recover from this affair. I would email her back and tell her. You can then tell your H about it.


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I agree with the wise Mel....she is the exposure queen....I'm just the exposure princess...LOL

The FOW's Mom needs to know that her daughter was involved with a married man that has a family, and that you prefer that she not e-mail your husband anymore.

-Caren


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Thanks Mel and Caren,
I thought you would say this. I'll get going. BTW Mel, there's a street by me named Melody Lane. Good street.


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Ok I just sent the email to ow's mother. why do I feel bad? I'm even shaking.


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I feel bad for her mother, she is a victim just like you are. You did the right thing, Michele. It's a crying shame you were put in this position in the first place.


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Gosh Mel,
I hope it just ends here. Thanks.


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Michele, I have been wondering about you. Don't feel bad as you did the right thing. Keep us posted!


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I second that...You did the right thing!


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Yes, you did the right thing. I'm sure.

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Thanks everyone for the support. I had a tough time sleeping last night thinking about it. I feel a little better this morning.

FWH and I are doing pretty well. We're spending alot of time together and with the kids. He's been great. I have my moments and I try not to "go there" too much. I have many triggers and I can't get the ow out of my head. I'm working on it and reading some books. My questions are dwindling, but I have 1 or 2 pop up every so often which FWH will answer. I think we're making progress. I read here every day. I've learned alot. But still have many bad feelings that are hard to deal with and get rid of. I know it's par for the course.


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Well,
After this brief period of quiet, ow tried to contact FWH this morning on his boat phone. He turned it off and then back on and she tried again. He called me to tell me. He can't keep it off today because a guy on the boat is expecting a "going into labor" call from his wife. So it has to stay on. Is it time for me to contact ow myself and discuss this? I'm tired of all this. Is this in retaliation of my exposure to her mom?


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