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Some background, my S and DIL are in recovery. My DIL wrote this today. By the way "Marjorie's" husband also had an affair, they are also back together and have a new baby. The gals in the office have been leaving DIL out of their "group lunches" since they found out my S and DIL are reconciling.
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I just want to say thanks for being my friend. It really sucks around here. They all went to lunch again today. A few weeks past I had a talk with Kolleen (that I work with) and she said that I gave up on them. I am tired of being nice and trying to feel like I fit in. What would you do? I have been nothing but friendly. Is what Jon did not the same? Marjorie seems to fit in just fine. I would like to know what "they" think I am doing that is so wrong.
Suggestions/solutions? Has this happened to anyone?
I know that you believe you understand what you think I said, but I'm not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant. - Robert McCloskey
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It's hard to say without more information. Office politics can be so...weird.
Are there any other problems with the coworkers, or is she just being left out of the group lunches?
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Thanks for the reply MOS!
DIL did not tell them at the beginning of recovery that she and my S were going to reconcile. I suppose she felt enough pressure giving the marriage a chance, being unsure herself, that she didn't need the added pressure of "I told you so" if things went south.
DIL said that she has no problem preforming her job with no one being friendly in her area, the group lunches suddenly omitting her was the icing on the cake. She and another co-worker were a BS and are both now back together with their spouses and the co-worker is also included in group lunches but not my DIL.
I know that you believe you understand what you think I said, but I'm not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant. - Robert McCloskey
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