Ok this is my problem...My FWH has been very good about NC and meeting EN but there are times that I want to talk to him about the A and the OW and my insecurities about it. My problem is that this month is a very busy month for him to meet deadlines at work which is causing him stress and of course the A has caused him a great deal of stress. He has been suffering from many physical problems in the last two months...more than he ever has in his life. Which I think is caused from all the stress.

One of my biggest concerns is that he has been complaining that his hands are trembling and that he is losing feeling in them..He has an appointment to see a nerologist next week because this has concerned his Dr. He also has had a lot of memeory loss. I have suffered in the past from panic attacks and I don't think that this is the same, but I do think it may be stress related. I desperately need to talk about my concerns and worries but when I do it causes these symptoms to flare for days after.

So here I sit holding all the emotions in and going crazy in the process. Should I wait to see what the nerologist has to say before I continue to talk to him about my concerns or should I just start now..He says he wants me to talk to him, but I feel like I don't want to add to the stress in his life...this was part of the reason that the affair started in the first place.

Is this a brain tumor or is it all in his head <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

LT

You don't have to "hold in emotions".

Write a journal ... and invite your H to read it whenever he chooses to.

PS ... brain tumors are easy to rule out.

has anyone else suffered from similar pysical symptoms while going through all this?

PEP: how do you rule out a brain tumor.

LT

The neurologist will do this. Asking the right questions. Doing a neuro exam in the office. Ordering any necessary imaging or other tests.

I doubt this is a brain tumor, by the sound of it.

Relax. OK.

Just wanted to update a little here. Last night a neighbor of mine had an "adult" toy party, so hanging out with the women and having few drinks...well more than a few drinks i came home with a goody bag and in my drunken stupor spilled all my feelings out to my H. Unfortunately, i am not really sure what i said. (Bit of a lite weight here) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> I guess now its all out there. Will be having a night out tonight without the kids so it should be fun. We can talk better now that MY head isn't in a fog. lol

LT <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

But you got your point across eh? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Have a nice evening out. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

L.