I have been with my SO for almost 1 yr. We have lived together since January. In June he lost his regular job and quickly got a job with his mother in the film industry. Because of the work hrs he told me that he would be staying at his parents house during the week and then come home on the weekends. And, he told me the job was temporary.
Fast forward to now. He is still working this job and I have not seen him in 2 weeks. To make it worse, he doesn't really call much either. He says he is very busy and often works 16 hr days. This past Sunday he was supposed to have come home. I called him at around 4 and he said he had just woken up and was planning on eating some dinner and then going back to bed. He said he would call on Monday. He has also been grumpy on the phone lately..he says he is tired.
On Monday, I called him at 11..he was going to bed, so not planning on calling me. We started talking and he said that he had to ask my opinion on something. He said.."if a guy is in a relationship, is it ok if he stays at a girls house. this girl is just a friend. and this guy went to her house to watch a movie and they ended up falling asleep next to each other." So, I asked him when this happened. He was trying to make it seem like it wasn't him...I guess to see how I would take the question. I said I didn't think it was right to put himself in a situation like that. He said that nothing was happening, they were just friends.
Then I was asking him when he might be home. He told me he could not make any promises as to when he would be home. Because if he is only off for 1 day, then he wants to sleep, not drive all the way back to our apartment. So, then we discussed just ending it since we never see each other. He said he did not think that he was as in love with me now as before because we don't see each other. Kinda hurtful. But, he said...lets sleep on it and figure it out. We have an apartment, animals, phone plan, etc. together and were planning to get marriend in Ireland, etc before he got this job.
So, I hung up and thought about it for a few mins. I called him back and said I had made the decision to just end it. We both cried together on the phone about how hard this was. Then hung up. The next day he called me in the morning to ask how I was doing and then we talked about trying to make it work. I said I was looking for another job to help pay for higher rent so we can move. But, I told him he would have to try and make this work too. Call more often, try to come home more. He admitted there are times that he could call or come home and he doesn't. He said he is just too tired. So, we decided we were going to give it a couple months...time for me to get another job and he was going to try harder.
Well, that was 2 days ago and I have not heard from him. This morning I interviewd for a job that I will most likely get. So, I sent him a text. Haven't heard a thing. I know he spends alot of time with this friend of his and that he works alot. Should I just end it, or give him some time to try to meet my needs. I just feel like I might have thrown away a whole year and plans for marriage and a family. What should I do????
