I posted this on GQII, but had to do it here, too, for I know there are some smart people coming here as well. :-)

XH phoned and said we had to meet ASAP for he "has to" talk to me about his relationship with our son.
His counselor's advise! And also X has to tell me what the counselor said about that (his R with our son).

I didn't know he's in IC, and he says it's for some issues he has, most of it - "that terrible feeling of guilt that's killing (him)".

I said - "Strange, how come that feeling of guilt doesn't kill your R with her ("OW")?"

He said - "How do you know that it does not?"

Why this now? It's been 1,5 yrs since D and 4,5 yrs. since they have R, I don't think he tries to get us together with this (nor I want)...
What's your opinion, please?

I think he doesn't love her and no happy with her, otherwise he would not have this feeling of guilt(?)
i.e. IMO, if someone feels guilty, that one would stop doing those things that make them feeling guilty...
I think this feeling protects him from consequences of wrongdoings ('I'm not a bad guy for I can feel guilt')...
Or excuse he doesn't want to make official his R with OW, because he is aware she's not happiness for his life?
(Or it's just my wish! )

Am I wrong?

Maybe he becomes aware now of how big mistake he made, for his family IS better than OW...

Or what else, please?
Maybe he's happy with her but still feel guilty?


PS: I do try to be his friend, would like to help him somehow, but not that he makes a fool from me again... (No, no way for getting back together, I'm out and fine, just curious, and yes, still want them no peace nor happiness together... forgive me, God!)

Please your opinions!