I have read 2 posts today where the BS has basically *told* their WS that they were plan Aing them.

Is this really a wise thing to do??

I never told my husband what I was doing, I simply started doing it.

I would think that a WS would be resistant to being part of some *plan*.

I don't think that it's dishonest not to tell the WS what you are doing, I think that you should make an educated guess as to what their needs are (as most of them won't fill out the EN questionnaire anyway) and just start filling them.

Am I wrong here???

Everytime I read that "I told my WS I was going to meet all their needs" or something like that, I can't help but thinking "NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO you don't tell the enemy your battle plan"

Anyone else have any thoughts???

-Caren

Always Look For Grace Given, Even in the midst of Grace Denied.

BS-Me 39
WH-37
Together 15 years
Married 12 years
7 kids total, His: SD20, SS18, Twin SS's 16.
Mine: DD22, DD15
Ours: DD12
Affair began Fall 04, Separated Fall 04,2 Failed Plan B attempts, False recovery of sorts Spring 05.......Still pluggin' away.