How many of you bs's had the ow fill your ws's head with lies about you that he believed? H is moved out and spending quite a bit of time with ow (well, sf time and I guess watching some tv or something) anyway, she is a big liar and manipulator. and adulteress. her stbxh talks to me at times and she has been filling his head with lies which he then tells me thinking they are truth. we have tried to tell the truth to both of our spouses about the op and they do not believe us. basically ow is telling my h lies that I am spreading rumors about him and that I said a bunch of stuff to her h that he then told her which I did not. she wants to make sure h wants nothing to do with me and that I want nothing to do with him. she wants my h at any cost no matter who she steps on or hurts. she is young and very heartless. And my h, who has been with me for 9 years is believing her over me! WTF! he yells at me (see my earlier post called MY H RIPPED ME APART TODAY) for spreading rumors and lies and getting ow's h to fill ow's head with lies about my h!

Does this happen a lot and does the ws ever wake up and smell the freakin coffee? will this behaviour backfire on ow eventually? she's the one lying and spreading rumors to make my h hate me so he won't want to come back to me. she is that afraid of losing him she will do anything to make sure she don't. will my h ever see through this? he messed around with her all last fall and kept in cell phone touch with her for at least 2 months at the beginning of the year while he was at tech school. then back in touch in may when he got back,not a lot but in touch and not 2 weeks after he moved out right back into full blown affair with her. When is the reality gonna set in for him? Our marriage may very well be over but no matter what my relationship with h has never been as strained as it is right now and this bi*** is cause of most of that strain with her lies. I am praying he doesn't actually want something serious with this whack job! mlhb

It happened to me...

OW was a lying, manipulative...B...
She had my FWH sooooooo manipulated, he didn't want me 'dressing' up to go to our business place, because it would intimidate our employees! That's not even the tip of the iceberg. I'd call our business, she'd hang up on me then go tell FWH I hung up on her! ( at this point I didn't know about A).
She'd tell him stuff like "oh, your wife is so lucky, she gets to stay at home...I work hard so your wife can go shopping ect..."
She was a druggy, an alcoholic and had already done one porn that she was proud of!? Plus being openly bi-sexual!

Anyhow...my whole point being that YES FWH did finally see this girl for what she was...but it took an awfully long time!!!
Now who is walking around with his tail between his legs????

The truth always comes out.
Your H will see her for her true stripes in time.
The best advice I can give you is to not fight back/ because she wins everytime you argue with him!
The best thing to say is:
You want to believe her over me?! Fine...go right ahead, but you'll see soon who is the liar and who isn't. You'll see...
(say it calmly and confidently...you will plant that seed of doubt...)

Best wishes to you...

my story is a little different

when my husband'sfirst affair of 8months ended-he called this woman all kindsof nasty names and told me that she was such a liar-he admitted that it was a PA but she said to me after he admitted to it "why wouldhe say that about me?" (oh boo-boo tramp)

anyway...about 8 months later he's back with her!

so i'm kicking myself with my own foot for not tape recording his comments about her so i could play them for her now!

hmmm....his NEW soul mate is the same woman he called a wh***

and right after he left to move near her....i asked him if he was back with her-and said that maybe he really had feelings for her he said "I'm not with her. I'd never have feelings for her. She's just just a wh*** who cheats on her husband."

so...maybe he sees the truth already and feels he doesn't deserve any better or maybe he think's his lies threw me off track

i don't know anything except now he's telling his family he has "real feelings for her"

so i hope it is true that in the end they see the reality of it!