Okay, that sounds good. Get to the doctor, and get some anti-D's. They will make you feel so much better - although some don't work for about 3 weeks (I woke up on the 22nd day, feeling great). I have never been one to take any kind of drugs, but during this mess, I needed them. I took them for a whole year, and tnen tapered off.

Feel free to come here at your worst. That helps too.

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You are doing fine. Learning how to Plan A takes some practice, not to mention some trial and error. You already know where you've made mistakes, by appearing lonely and needy.

What to do next... more of the same, only put that strong, confident look on your presence when you see him, and keep the visit short and SWEET, and don't write him the long letters. And don't call, and don't "come around back" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Just give him a card, maybe include a picture of you two having some fun in the past with the card, be looking good, smelling good, and just give him a "sample" of your charm, not a wheelbarrel full of your anguish.

I know it's hard, really hard, but if you convince yourself he's truly an alien, in other words, NOT his former self right now, you can "emotionally detach" from him a bit, and do this a little emotionally "aloof", without letting every little negative detail bring you down.

Right now he'll do anything, say anything and believe all his own lies and actions. You can't change that. You can change you!

Keep reading and posting for support... we'll get you through this.

Best wishes,
SD