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Well here is the newest update:

DS24 went into he restaurant with GF and did not say anything to WW. It apparently made her very mad, because after they left he received this text message from WW (his mother): "Don't worry about saying anything to me anymore. I have come to realize I don't need you or want you you or your dad in my life anymore. Just remember whose house you live in."

This comes a week after she bought DS24's GF a wedding planner for their wedding planed for next year.

I have had no communication with her since 9/22 when she was texting me that she is little better with her tooth and I only replyed: "Your in my thoughts and prayers".

Any comments? Stillin Plan A, will try to setup an appointment with SH in the next couple of weeks.

That was a very foolish thing the WS did to her child. Adult child or not, that was very hurtful.

If it was anyone who did this to your child, what would you do?

Me thinks you ought to let the WS stew in her mire....by herself.

JMHO,
L.

Holy Cow!!! I guess the legal separation & Plan B must now go into effect.

Just got this text message from WW who is at the restaurant drinking and on pain killers (vicaton)?

She Texted:
"Boy did I get an interesting welcome back to the bar today. I was approched by a few friends & customers, they seem to think I should be concerned for my safety. Remember these are all MY friends, they care about me. One of the comments they are saying is that if you can't have me no one can. Planning on doing harm to me? I'm not coming home I am in love with OM. It's over between us. I was hoping we could do this like adults, guess not."

My Reply to her was "I have no idea what you are talking about. I have not talked to anyone at the restaurant about us. I have a life, you better get your facts straight. I have only been concerned about your infection."

She replyed: That was'ny anything close to what they said. But as long as we are on the same page, that;s good."

I replied: "Believe what you want,our family dos not even talk about you anymore, you walkedout on us and we really don't think about you much."

Her final reply and our final communication for the evening was: "Good that makes it easy".

I really have no idea what she is talking about! I do not even go into the restaurant during business hours anymore and do not communicate or see anyone that would or is even associated with her anymore!

NEED HELP!!!!!!!!

Go report this before she does a # on you. Is your lawyer avaiable?!?!?! She c/b setting you up for a fall. Save those text messages. Then ask for eye witnesses to this incident. Find out if anyone in the restaurant did say something like that. I think not. I think she is attempting to pick a fight so she has a reason to take you to the cleaners.

Don't wish her well or say anything that c/b used against you.

Be careful.

L.

hopefully she did not remove th security tape, I will get that tonight to she who shewas talking with at the restaurant, it has some voice but never too good due to the background. I thought I knew her! I have and never would threaten her!!! Wow, she's killing me. I am DS24's house tonight having a BBQ, very hard with this on my mind.

She is a totally,completely different person!!!!

Ihave no idea where she getting these rumors or notions but they are killing me. I showed the email to son's and they both said "I hate the ******".

It just keeps gettng worse, she lost it, OM I really think is help planting his stuff so he will have something after his D.

BTW I do not have a lawyer yet, anyone know a good one in Denver, CO., hopefully female and not to expensive?

Well I got the tape I have not looked at it but will tommorrow. IS THIS FOG BABBLE OR WHAT? She has never been this mean in her whole life, the son's and my mom are dumd struck by her complete alienation of us and her hate.

I keep reading sexysadie's post from 9/25/05 @ 4:15 pm about the light house and hopeing thats her, a ship at sea in the fog, but just do not know any more. She sounds very messed up. Even my doctors have said it could be related to the MS in the form of a mental disorder? Who knows, but it's devastating to the 4 people who loved her - DS20, DS24, My Mom & Me.

With all due respect.

You must be the dumbest human put on this planet. Your W has gone around the bend, and I mean literally. She is has alienated her own children and told them to buzz off. You share a restruant with her, home, many things, AND you can get fired from your job IF she makes claims that you have threatened her physically, AND you are wondering if you should get a lawyer.

DEN, tomorrow morning before you have coffee, go to work or anything HIRE A LAWYER and I mean a bulldog lawyer and tell this lawyer what is going on. If you don't you won't have to worry about losing your marriage, you stand a very good chance of losing a lot more important things such as your freedom, your family, and what is left of the life you built.

Hire the lawyer, get a legal separation IF they are available in your state and protect yourself. Do it NOW!

God Bless,

JL

PS: I sort of apologize for my opening statement, but ONLY if you act and get a lawyer. You really need to step back and look at what is going on here. I hope my inappropriate harshness will get your attention.

I am going to look for a lawyer tommorrow. She loved our kids, they were best friends until DDay. She's walked away from everything. Half staff at the bar is about ready to walk out because of what she's done and their actions in the bar/restaurant. I'm just trying to keep everthing above water for right now, soooo hard. "Her Friends" telling her this I have no idea who they are, I went down to gt security tape and people were ver y nice to me, just do not know. But yes it is quite a hassle with a business and my regular job for legal separation in CO, but I want her to lose her heath insurance to show her what she is going to have to pay with her medical condition, if she can get any at all. I need to change my benificiairs (sp) also tommorrow.

Well I don't know if was the right thing to do but I did it anyway. After tonight I am so hurt, so I got into her email account and emailed everyone in her address book the following:

" Well if you do not know by now here is what is happening.

WW bcame very depressed in the summer of 2004, we are still unclear as to why/

WW met up with a guy she had an affair with 6 years ago in August and began a close personal relationship.

On July 16, 2005 it was discovered she was having an affair with an other person by the name of OM. On July 29, 2005 she moved into a 1 bedroom apartment with him, saying she was going down a different path in her life and we as family could not fix it.

Well to say the least, WW has walked out on her family with no remorse and she says shes happy. Well good for her.

WW and OM have only destroyed 2 families, 50 years of marriage (25 each). Children will not talk to them, friends (she thinks) giving her wrong advise and now moving to divorce .

Hope she will be happy, but in truth knowing she is lost. But we have no way of helping her. She is in fnasty land, like a junkie on crack.

Maybe one day she will see what she lost?."


COMMENTS?

It's a done deed. Be prepared for some backlash. Long as you are firm in your stance.

Make sure you go get that lawyer. If you are in the Dnvr CO area, there is at least 1 MB couple who may be able to help. I will see if I can locate them. Would you be interested in their support? Both of them used to post on MB.

BTW, JL is a very nice guy. His words are meant to help you. He usually doesn't get quite as riled up as he did on his last post but I can see he feels strongly about your disadvantage and doesn't want you t/b on the losing end of this sitch.

take care,

L.

yes on the help, please email or private. BTW I understand JL, he's trying to help. I just thought it would never come down to this, she has always been a good mother, yes a WW but I love her and am so hurt the way she is treating me. I guess I spoided her to long, don't know?

PS: dencaptg@aol.com

I sent an e-mail to them.

L.

Well just got a phone call from WW calling me immuture for emailing her family about her affair. She said I should see a new doctor, because they are making an [censored] out of me. She said the people that got the email think I'm crazy. One is her cousin who has been married 5 times and other thats been married 4 times. Did not apologize just listened, then told her how much she has hurt me and the boys. She started to talk about divorce, but I told her I'm committed to this marriage to the end. By the time we ended the conversation I could tell she was crying. Going to let things die down for awhile and call SH.

Here is the last text message I got from her:

"I just read your email. You are one sick ******! I hope you got out of it what you were hoping. You totally embarressed me in front of some special family and hurt me terribly. I no longer want anything to do with you. I don't want to talk to you again ever! You should show this to your so called doctor.

Sounds like you did a great job. Congratulations!

Did you see a lawyer today?

Ok, whose the 'special family'. Do they have a different position than the regular family? LOL!!! Embarressed her?!?!? Nope, more like cleared the fog.

Oh yea, some won't believe right away but in time, if she keeps to her script all will know.

You won't even have to give more proof. She will do it for you.

As for her not wanting to speak to you ever....keep that message. You may need to play it for her the next time she calls. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

L.

Well I learned from the staff at the restaurant that last night, WW was showing the email I sent to her family and friends to customers and saying "look how crazy he is." The staff said she was making a big joke out of it, but was making an even bigger fool of herself. She was also saying " See this is why I left him."

Will she ever wake up? I really don't think so. Trying to figure out finiancial papers. Wow this hurts so bad knowing that I will most likely never be with my wife again.

This is what she is emailing the people that received the exposurer email:

"Please know that this is not the whole picture. There is much more to this than what he shows. I feel that it isn't everyones business. The people that are close to us understand. Greg is not the person that you see in public. I don't expect you to understand or accept it. Just know this is not by any means, the whole story."

What is she trying to say?

I know I failed to meet some of her EN's but she was spoiled. She had anything she wanted, I was always buying her flowers, cards, gifts, taking her places. Yes we were getting into arguments the last few months, but that was because of her seeing the old OM and before I knew about new OM and DDay. I guess that exposing it further just likely sealed my fate now soon to be divorced BS. I guess i should have just kept my mouth shut and hoped the A would end on its own, but the way they were acting they are going to be together for a long time. She telling people all kinds of things that are unture in our marriage, trying to destroy my integrity and reputation.

The part about "The people that are close to us understand."
NO THEY DO NOT, my sons, my mom are all in disbelieve. The only people that are accepting it is OMW, and a few bar flies who have been divorced. Her best friend will not even talk to her anymore. The people close to us know I treated her very well.

Just don't know, completely down and out now. I wanted so bad to work this out and have a great marriage and practice all the principles, but it looks now that I will never get that chance.

Dencaptg,

I'm sorry you are feeling so depressed.

Have you read Surviving an Affair? Tough love? Have you read everything on this webpage?

If you haven't do so as soon as possible. If you have you must have read how WS behave in a WS way, which is called the "fog". You must ignore it. Don't take it personally. They all rewrite marital history.

You must work on yourself and become a person she can feel safe with, and she can admire. There's nothing much you can do about what she says or does, but you can work on YOU.

Affairs don't last. And when hers ends you have to be an attractive choice.

Reread what you have been advised.

Read books and this webpage and any other you find.

Hope this helps.
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