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Well, of course you can't trust him, that would be silly. I wouldn't have anything to do with a man who molested a 16 yr old. Apparently, a prosecutor and a judge believed he was guilty even though you don't, and they had all the facts.
How is your D taking all this and where is she? If you were my mother and you got back together with my molestor, you would be written off.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Hmmmmm. I think I would have to hear much more about this. How was your marriage in the previous ten years? Why did you divorce him in the first place? Has he had a long-term sleepwalking pattern?
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Usually, or should I say, almost never, a pedophile will not report their behavior to a counselor.
People that are legitimately sleepwalkers, are unconscious. So his story does ring true to me. I suggest some family counseling.
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We have since gotten back together, in light of everything I still love him but feel I can never totally trust him that he will not have an affair or do this again. I am not sure what to do. You're a good person for being concerned in doing the right thing and here are a few questions that might help you bring out what it is you are truly concerned with. Why do you think you can never trust him again? Why do you feel that he will have an affair? Why do you think that he would do this again?
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I would continue the counseling and see how it goes. Sleepwalking DOES happen, and the person is UNCONSCIOUS. I am hoping that was the case with your husband.
Pedophiles usually blame the victim, deny that they did anything wrong, and don't tell. Believe me, I know. We have one in our family. He has never admitted to anything, although he spent 5 years in jail.
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Wow that must be hard on your family too. Once agin thank you for your support. And yes we are going to continue counselling so far it has helped us in many ways but like I said it is gonna be a hard and long road to recovery for all of us involved.
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