Knock me over with a feather!! I was in my weekend home with my old girlfriend( the girl I broke up with to marry WW, amazingly she is still my friend)when I got a call from my neighbor.

"Mrs Cymanca has been storming around the building telling everyone that will listen that Cymanca is in the condo with his old girlfriend. I am calling because she looked incensed and I thought that you need to be careful"

Now this is amazing since we have had minimal contact over the last 18 months and no real contact for the last 10 months. The only things that I knew about her and her boyfriend(s) was because mutual personal and Rotary friends would blurt things out until I emphatically told them that I did not want to hear anything about her.

Now I don't believe in coincidences, so my feeling is that this "visit" occurred secondary to the attorney meeting this week. Either she heard or was told something by her attorney that prompted this drop in. What it was , I don't know, since I have heard nothing from my attorney since their meeting.

I expect a very loud and eventful Monday.

Can anyone give me their thoughts as to why she would suddenly show up. After everything that she has done and lied about wny would she react in such a manner. The few times we did exchange words she emphasized that she hoped I would also find someone to love??????? I know, fog but WTF <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

Hi Cymanca.....Graycloud once put it in a profound way that I cannot improve upon:

"Chicks"

May as well find something that you will have a better chance of understanding; like contemplating the infinity of space.

I obviously have no insight into that head-case that will further your sense of who she is and what she's doing. Just wanted to let you know I lurk and keep abreast of a few that were mired in the chaos when I began my journey.

BTW in regards to your other thread, I too am unimpressed with the cold, abrasive demeanor of my lawyer. Ya think for $300.00/hr I could get customer service than I get at a drive through window at Wendy’s.

Are you asking "why?"

ummmmmm

coz she lost her sense of control

and she thought YOU might have it

Thanks Binder,

I spent 8 years showing my STBXW that no matter what she did I always loved her. If there was EVER a husband that bent over backwards for my vows it was me. I don't say that patting myself on the back, facts are facts. I remember at the Vatican standing up looking at the Pope's windows praying for my wife and our marriage.

And like most of us here, I was willing to do anything to repair my M even after the unthinkable happened to shatter my very core. I was willing to move, relocate, leave everything behind, all she had to do was ask and commit to that healing process. Instead all I had was lie after lie thrown up in my face in response to my offering the dove of peace.

As I am writing this I just got a voicemail with her phone number on caller ID. As I stated to her on numerous occasions, I checked my email and since their was no NO Contact letter received and I deleted the voicemail without listening to it.

Pep,

Please, I am really trying to understand...What is she trying to control at this point? How the divorce should be run???

She's going to become a stalker and follow you around some... be sure you go to interesting places.

What is she trying to control?

ummmmmm

look at yourself in the mirror .... ---> HIM

Pep,


Is that the infamous Pep wit, or are serious about the stalking?

She's trying to control this loss .... the fella she always had in her back pocket. She's gonna come looking for him.

semi-serious dude

watch your rear-view mirror

the scary part is ... there is no "why" .... simply because she wants something from you ... and it may be attention!

or... more benign ... the infamous

"closure"

which usually means .... she wants to make sure you are "OK" .... in other words ... she wants a clear conscience....

She may say to you ..

"Please don't hate me."

Pep,

I have a feeling that one of our other cats has died and that she was coming to tell me personally. It was her cat but Columbus was my dearest pal as WW was away at school for almost three years. She last sounded like the person I fell in love with in October when she called sobbing about have to put our other cat down.

If history is a lesson, that might be the reason.

I hope not, I miss him every day.

oh ... sorry

I am a cat person... I hope Columbus is just fine.

Naw, I don't think so. That would be too coincidental. I think it has something to do with control.

I'm a cat person too.

Believer,

The only other reason would be some clothes and other personal things that are here. But I am only here on weekends and she has the keys to the condo. She can come here any other time to pick up her things without running into me.

Well, who knows? Maybe there wasn't enough drama for her in the "meeting". She might be disappointed.

By the way, I hope you are waiting before you jump into another relationship.

LOL... cats!

A creature not totally unlike a WS in many ways.... Now I never made the connection before, but think about it....

And I too, am a cat person.... and I hope your remaining cats are fine.

SD

Cy:

It all just shows 2 go you... ...strange is truther than fiction! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

-ol' 2long

Believer,

I think that after 1 and 1/2 years of total abandonment, I would hardly equate a relationship now as "jumping".

I know why you voice your concern, and I thank you for it .