It is. But poor Mel works for the competition.

Sure as heck is - how else would I survive?

BB

Well in deference to Mel, I will drink with my can in a brown paper bag

Hi everyone. Just an update.


We are deep into the lawyer,mediation thing. A thoroughly disgusting process.

These last several weeks it seems that I can't go anywhere without someone else telling me or emailing me another STBXW story. I had only just heard that she had caused the destruction of ANOTHER relationship with a local guy that I was adamant that she couldn't have done. That would have made TWO enagagements/long term relationships that she had destroyed in the 1 and 1/2 year of our separation. I was admittedly quite defensive about the last one and I asked the person relating me the story to please not spread gossip.

Well anyway, at the meeting today we were discussing real estate agents that could be used for the sale of some of the property and WW perked up and suggested agent DH.

I was able to keep my composure but I was devastated that the agent she named had been identified as the second breakup partner. I knew then that piece of gossip was true and I want to tell you it HURT. BIG TIME.

Looking straight at my WW I said " Business relationship B*llsh*t, you mean intimate relationship"

Her attorney dropped his jaw and almost his pen and my WW's face turned crimson, but not one word of denial.

I know I have said this before but I am more flabbergasted at her "indiscretions" now then even on D day. I can not believe someone that spent all her time worried about what Tom and Harriet said about her, is now the talk of our area. We are both high profile people and I can not fathom what she is doing to herself and her family name.

Sorry, just venting. I have come to realize that I fell in love with what my WW was 10% of the time and this past several years there has been nothing to be seen except for that other 90%.

She's ill Cy ... you know that.

Pep,

Yeah, I know. And it is killing me that I couldn't do anything to stop her self destruction and misery.

I think I need to go talk to some of my Psych friends.

As always, thanks Pep.

It hurts not to be able to help. I know. Be good to you, you're a pretty tender guy.

Hi, Cyman.

I'm sorry you're hurting for you and her.

If she is indeed bipolar, she will crash from this bout of mania, and it won't be pretty. If she is just a player, then you will be better off far away from her.

Either way, you will be better off away from her. I am really glad there are no children.

Some people can't be helped until they are willing to help themselves.

God bless,
Gimble

Gimble,

Your points are accurate and I know that I could do very little to change history(except kowtow to all her daily demands). I have never had things come easy to me. And yes, I have screwed up royally in other areas of my life, but I have given my heart,soul,energy and my health for this woman. I just can't believe that she could so completely degrade and debase herself in front of family, friends , co-workers and most of all, our Lord.

Thanks Gimble and I will keep you in my prayers.

Cymanca, you are a very noble person and you saved STBXW from herself for a few years. Sometimes even ill people refuse the help because they are ill. You were a very good husband and her savior for the time you were together. It says so much about you, but now she has returned to the illness....and you are still a noble person. ss

SS,

Thank you so much for your kind thoughts.Funny, but until today, I had not had any feelings of shame regarding my WW and M. Now I feel embarassed that I gave so much for so little in return.

BTW, WW showed up again at my office just after I had left. I can't fathom what would bring her there at this time after that scene with the attorneys