I am having a hard time figuring out if my WH is still having C with OP. Can anyone answer these questions?

If OP is dialing *67 before calling WH on his cell or vice versa, is there a way to find out? Is there a way to tell on his phone if he is dialing *67 before calling her? WH's cell phone shows "restricted" calls which I suspect is OP.

Assuming WH is deleting the history on his computer, is there a way to find out what sites he has been visiting? I am wondering about a hidden email account.

Finally - CarenMC- how the heck did you hack into OP's cell account? What a score!

Thanks. Stung

stung, you can easily put spyware on his computer and find out where he has been. It will show every website, passwords, etc. A good one, IMO, is actmon at actmon.com. But be sure and pay for it, lest it will run in trial version which will give you a "trial banner" and you want it to be invisible.

Thanks, ML. But will his spyware detect it?

stung, the only that I know that does pick it up is Microsoft AntiSpyware. Spybot and Adaware do not.

I ordered the numbers called detail from cell company. I don't know if *67 shows up blank,I think it does not. You have to be listed on the account to get it.

As far as passwords go. I think a little luck and knowledge goes along way. I was able to figure my WS's password in 15 tries the first time. Now that he knows that I snooped (telling him was necessary to expose EA) I havn't been able to figure it out, yet.

try words and #s that are significate to him, such as
b-dates, old address #s, pets names, hobbies, first car, favorite music group, ex girl friends or wives names,employee numbers, OP name you get the idea. people are predictable.

Thanks Faith. Once I tried to hack into WH's cell password (this is how I found out about WH's 2nd A) and was LOCKED OUT! So I was bagged - very embarassing!

Stung,

I installed spyware for 1 month free on our computer from this site and found it to be invisible and user friendly. It logs passwords and takes snapshots of the screen every 30 sec. I can't speak to the ability for it to be detected by any anti-spyware programs though. I believe you may have to disable them to install it, then enable them after it's already there. Someone with more IT knowledge may be able to speak to that. I've also heard that Spector is also a good one.

Forget hacking.... purchase a voice activated digital recorder and a lot of batteries. Purchase with cash so no record available for WS to discover. Hide it most likely spots (office, car). Purchase more than one if you want. You'll get so much info you can pick and choose what you disclose and wait a few days and he'll never remember when and where or if it was a conversation or something he typed or texted. Moving it around may help keep it a secret also.


Warning though. You'll likely hear way too much. You must be prepared for fogtalk and have the self confidence not to believe a word of it. You are likely to be a regular topic of conversation and it won't be pretty. My wife is still pissed off once I disclosed this method of snooping. Luckily I found her conversations about me to OM were sooooo far off base I figured out pretty fast her relationship with OM was based upon Bull$h1t.

I suggest that if you can't handle this monitor only for contact and not content.

As far as his spyware. Disable it. Be sure to change settings so it doesn't reactivate itself on start up and hope he doesn't realize it's not running. You should hide or delete the spyware icon also.

Good luck

My H is too tech savvy to know when the spyware detector is deactivated, but I've already purchased my voice activated recorder, and I'm bracing myself for some really ugly comments about me. My H has passwords protecting all of his stuff, so unless I can get him to drop those, we can be sure of no stage nearing openness and honesty.
Once my H caught me on his email before password protect back years ago, and he changed his pw. He needed me to get into his computer for a business emergency and had to tell me his current password, back years ago, was SNOOP. Guess the writing was on the wall, huh? Move me over to Idiotville, I guess.

Thanks for all your posts -- I'm ready to snoop!

GPS tracker will tell you everywhere his car has been. I recommend LAS 3100.