Good morning Froz ~ I'm over an hour late getting ready for work. So, work first, then I'll respond tonight.

Look in the mirror at yourself today Froz. Practice smiling at you.

Then I want you to look at yourself right in the eyes and say OUT LOUD ~ I LOVE YOU FROZ.

Do that every morning! Yes I know it seems silly. It's not. JUST DO IT.

I would probably look pretty ridiculous doing that given that my name isn't Froz.

I did my "pre-steve phone call" questionnaire. I hope I am ready to make the phone call as productive as possible.

I hate mondays. Monday is the one day in the week when I am at work and Froz is not. It is difficult because without me around, she has plenty of time to ponder and work herself up. And I am not angry at her for this. I am sad, because she has every right to be bothered by the things in my past and it is just difficult to support her on the phone from work. Our conversations of support are so much better in privacy and in person.

I worry about her. Even though she has gotten some good advice on things, she is still in a very difficult position. She has to check well deserved rage towards me(which she does magically) and she has to continue to survive.

None of this being easy for anyone in the world, and she is no different.

I guess, this morning I was just thinking about the plight of my wife and wondering where she finds the strength to stay. It is enormous. All the pain and just crap that is stirred up by my past actions.

I stand by her. I should not be commended for doing as such. It should be expected. I am her husband. I am committed to her and I love her. I certainly hope I am able to bring some happiness to her life.

I miss you dear. I really do. thank you for being who you are. I could never thank you enough.

Thank you.

Patriot,

You have given Froz a great gift by hiring SH as your coach. It was the most loving thing my husband did to help us heal our marriage.

There are other gifts to be found in recovery, you'll both discover them individually.

She and you both have a real chance for personal growth and make a healthy marriage together.

Hey, it worked for me! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Sal

Stop interfering with my obstinateness, "Sally".

"I LOVE YOU FROZ"

"<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />"

"Sally"

is this another "quote" joke?

"huh?"

I love you Dorry worked for me - think I should change my name <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> haha - I should try looking in the mirror and saying I love you Froz and see what happens though....

Patriot? Did someone quote you? Let me see, oh yes, that's right!

Someone DID quote you. And didn't some sorry whiner make a big fuss about not having been quoted...?

Nope. 'S'not a quotes joke. Just a plain old ordinary poke joke at Ms. Froz and her "supposed" OBstinateness.

Nice note by the way. Froz IS very special isn't she?! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Sal

Okay, Dorry, but let me forewarn you...

Remember that old wives tale from when we were teenagers? The one where your friends tell you to go in the bathroom and turn the lights off and say "Bloody Mary, bloody Mary...", into the mirror? Rumor has it that Bloody Mary will show her ugly face in the mirror.

There is no telling what will actually happen if you stand in the mirror reciting "I love you, Froz".

Just a thought.

"Supposed"?????? Are you trying to discredit me????

Shall I give you references of people who can vouch for my obstinateness?

Let's see...which witness shall I call to the stand?

Patriot
My mother
BrambleRose
Pep

The defense rests her case.

LOL froz - so if I keep the lights on???? lol

Well Froz...good thing my name is Bramble "PitBull" Rose.

Ask my husband, he'll tell you all about stubborn and obstinate being my major qualities! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

In that case, the outcome will probably be you just feeling ridiculous. Try it and let me know!

Well, PitBull...does that mean you'll be a reluctant witness?

No it just means I got my teeth in ya and I'm not letting go til ya get it...obstinate or no....lol

Love it when you put me in my place.

Wanna hear something cute? I'm telling you anyway.

My DD17 was elected Art Club President (she's a very talented painter).

She didn't want anyone in Art Club to feel left out, so Miss President decided everyone should hold an office. Art Club now has a Vice President, a Secretary, a Sergeant at Arms, a Sheriff, etc...

She is so sweet and cute. She cracks me up. She is truly the most darling girl ever.

I thank God every day for my beautiful children Froz...

But, harumph, what I wanted to hear was if you stood in front of your mirror and did what I told you to do instead of just making obstinate remarks about it?

Sometimes parents don't recognize (even if it jumped up and bit 'em <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />) all the things they've taught their kids... even if they weren't even trying.