I also posted in recovery.

Its been eight months since i found out about my H A with a co-w.It lasted a little over two months.Up until i found out around x-mas.It stop right there and within a few months he had a new job. It took five more months to find out they had sex five times.
I have been having such a hard time with what he did.We have been together since we were 15 and now we are 30 and 31.What he did hurt me so very much.
Since x-mas allthese feelings that we had locked up just came pouring out and they still do today.WE talk all the time.Yes i one of those who can't stop going back.Even tho i asked the same question a hundred times.
Anyway last night as we were laying in bed talking,my H had said one day maybe you and god will forgive and then i hope i will forgive myself someday.Hes said this before.Hes never asked me to forgive he always says hopefully one day i will.
A few seconds after for some reason i just got close to him and whispered in his ear i forgive you.He just grabbed me and held me so tight.He kept saying over and over I LOVE YOU.He said i will make you so happy.He also said he will make sure this person i just forgave deserves it.He will work at it always.He even cryed.
I don't know what made me do it.I just know afterwards i felt something being lifted from me.I never thought of how i would go about this,never thought of what i would say.
I think maybe it is a sign that i am ready to move on and and hopefully leave the past alone.
Over these past eight months we have falling so much in love.Even tho we been together for 16 yrs i know we always loved one another we now are in-love.I feel it .

ANY THOUGHTS
#1mom

i'm so happy you were able to forgive.

i'm happy for BOTH of you

I'm happy for you guys. This is something I've been working on - hopefully I can forgive my husband soon, also.

Thanks peachy and eav.Its means alot.
I know my H did'nt see this coming.I did'nt see this coming.So tonite i'm going to ask him his thoughts and feelings.

#1mom

^^BUMP^^

That's a good recovery sign.

Both of u, keep up the good work. Learn to lean on each other for your M support.

Now the job is to find out what triggers sent him out there. See if you can schedule a session or w/Steve.

L.

Well i hate to say it,this OW was a very forward person did'nt give up until she won.
See when it came to sex i really was not forward what so ever.
Thats all they really had.SEX
I guess he liked someone being so forward with him.
That has all changed.

#1mom

bump