Hi everyone. Well, mortarman gave me some excellent information on what to do if I choose to report my WH to the military. As I said before, he is part time military so this is not his main bread winning job. It will not effect me financially if he gets booted out. I am very nervous about this because it is a major decision and I am not a revengeful person. But...... I do feel he is a disgrace to the military even if just part time as he carried on with this woman for at least 2 of the 4 months he was gone to tech training, I have cell phone bills over 200.00 for the first 2 months there and it wasn't from talking to us. He also I am pretty sure slept with women while there as he admitted as much to ow and I have hotel bills from this time frame. Hello, he was staying in base housing, what did he need a hotel for??

If I do it it will be for many reasons, and not revenge. It will be because it is the right thing to do. My H will be FURIOUS WITH ME and hate me for life probably but this marriage is probably done anyway. He moved out a month ago and went right back to sf with ow.

I know the decision is ultimately mine but if you were in my shoes would you report him as mortarman has recommended? and if you have reported your H were you satisfied with the consequences? how did your ws react being called upon the carpet? what were the punishments? I am really trying to get as much info, as much input as I can before I make any concrete decisions. Thank you for your input. mlhb
If this helps, he is a fireman for the vermont air national guard. he has one week of combat training in florida in september than off to iraq in january. I have all the proof and witnesses I need for any type of action. Also, did reporting this blow up in anyone's face and spouse got no punishment whatsoever? The info mortar gave me has me going straight to investigators, no [censored] footin around....

I've never been in your exact situation, but I wanted to answer your question. I'm also in the Air National Guard (I'm in a state in the midwest). I would definitely take action on this. When I found out that my husband was having an emotional affair with one of his co-workers (he is active duty military - a different branch than me), the first thing I did was call my husband's supervisor, then his Commanding Officer, then I called the co-worker, and I told everyone involved that if I didn't get immediate satisfaction, I'd be calling the IG at Great Lakes. And all the crap that was going on came to a screeching halt.

I personally uphold the Air Force's core values of "Integrity First - Service Before Self - Excellence in All We Do," and it pisses me off to see fellow troops who DON'T do that. I definitely think you ought to take action on this, and I commend you for taking steps to make that happen.

I see Mortarman has you taken care of, but if you need further help, I'd be happy to do anything I can.

Good luck!

Peachy

peachy, did you read mortarman's response to me on how to do this? it is under ADULTERY AND THE MILITARY NEED ADVICE or something like that. I may have some questions for you. I am really leaning towards doing this asap. mlhb

Feel free to email me. Do you have my address?? :-)

I do not have your email.... what is it???? mlhb