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Please find below an email that my husband received just after our D-day by a friend of his that lives on the opposite side of the country from us and who knew nothing of our situation. This was sent at a time when he was so emotional and felt so very alone...Although, I am not a big fan of this particular friend of his, I will always be grateful that she shined a bit of light into his life when he needed it so much. It also should be noted that this friend is a staunch atheist, furthering my belief(and my H's) that God does truly carry us when He knows that we can't go it alone...

It is my prayer that not only will God Bless all who read this, but that it may also serve as a reminder that God never leaves us no matter how dire our situation may seem...He always sees the bigger picture and knows that the best really is yet to come...

With Love In Christ,


Mrs. Wondering




***KEEP YOUR FORK!***


There was a young woman who had been diagnosed with a terminal illness and had been given three months to live. So as she was getting her things "in order," she contacted her Pastor and had him come to her house to discuss certain aspects of her final wishes.

She told him which songs she wanted sung at the service, what scriptures she would like read, and what outfit she wanted to be buried in.

Everything was in order and the Pastor was preparing to leave when the young woman suddenly remembered something very important to her.

There's one more thing," she said excitedly. "What's that?" came the Pastor's reply. "This is very important," the young woman continued. "I want to be buried with a fork in my right hand."

The Pastor stood looking at the young woman, not knowing quite what to say. That surprises you, doesn't it?" the young woman asked. Well, to be honest, I'm puzzled by the request," said the Pastor. The young woman explained. "My grandmother once told me this story, and from that time on I have always tried to pass along its message to those I love and those who are in need of encouragement.

In all my years of attending socials and dinners, I always remember that when the dishes of the main course were being cleared, someone would inevitably lean over and say, 'Keep your fork. It was my favorite part because I knew that something better was coming...like velvety chocolate cake or deep-dish apple pie. Something wonderful, and with substance!

So, I just want people to see me there in that casket with a fork in my hand and I want them to wonder "What's with the fork?" Then I want you to tell them: "Keep your fork...the best is yet to come."

The Pastor's eyes welled up with tears of joy as he hugged the young woman good-bye. He knew this would be one of the last times he would see her before her death.. She had a better grasp of what heaven would be like than many people twice her age, with twice as much experience and knowledge. She KNEW that something better was coming.

At the funeral people were walking by the young woman's casket and they saw the cloak she was wearing and the fork placed in her right hand. Over and over, the Pastor heard the question, "What's with the fork?" And over and over he smiled.

During his message, the Pastor told the people of the conversation he had with the young woman shortly before she died. He also told them about the fork and about what it symbolized to her. He told the people how he could not stop thinking about the fork and told them that they probably would not be able to stop thinking about it either.

He was right. So the next time you reach down for your fork let it remind you, ever so gently, that the best is yet to come.

Friends are a very rare jewel, indeed. They make you smile and encourage you to succeed. They lend an ear, they share a word of praise, and they always want to open their hearts to us.

Show your friends how much you care. Remember to always be there for them, even when you need them more. For you never know when it may be their time to "Keep their fork."

Cherish the time you have, and the memories you share ... being friends with someone is not an opportunity but a sweet responsibility.

And from me to you, keep your fork...


FWW ~ 47 ~ Me
FBH ~ 50 ~ MrWondering
DD ~ 17
Dday ~ 2005 ~ Recovered

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T_W,

You know I have seen this story before and it never ceases to touch me. It is so appropriate for this site and I hope others get the inspiration they need from this very touching post.

God Bless,

JL

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Mrs.W.

Thanks for that. It gave me goosebumps reading it. I have never read this before and i think that it is a great story. Makes me want to do the same. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

~LT

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Thanks. I needed to read this today. Reminds me that 2 tines on my 'fork' are my beautiful kids and the world of possibility before them.


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ohhh Trixie i like that...mind if i steal it? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

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My wife is wonderful for posting this. It was sent to me at 12:00 noon on April 27th less than 16 hours after D-moment. I was in fact shocked for all the reasons my wife stated. It still upsets me as it is a trigger; but, as it takes me back to how I felt the first time I read it, the message inspires hope as I recover. The best is yet to come.

Love you Mrs. Wondering

Mr. Wondering


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Mr. Wondering, my love...

I am so sorry to trigger bad memories for you. I can promise you with all of my heart that that was never my intention...Please forgive me...you called me wonderful in your post,(which feels so amazing to hear in third person...thank you sweetheart!) so I think maybe you recognized that I just had yet another "blonde moment"...DUH!McFly!..I don't know how you put up with me, but I'm so grateful that you do...Honey, you just ROCK and I LOVE YOU SOOOO...MUCH!!! Can't wait til you get home tonight...You're right love, the best is yet to come, here's to us being on our way to a sweet forever...

Always,

Mrs. Wondering(J.A.)


FWW ~ 47 ~ Me
FBH ~ 50 ~ MrWondering
DD ~ 17
Dday ~ 2005 ~ Recovered


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