My WH & I are doing well but still early in our recovery. One of the things that still angers me is that I feel like his family encouraged him rather than telling him to get his head out of his axx during A. Now I learn that my sister may be getting a D. No A that I know of, but BIL has some mental problems that could be putting sis & 2 small kids in danger. (When BIL is stable he is a much better parent than sis.) His mental problems have made their marriage problems worse and they are both at the point of "If you won't do this, I'm going to punish or do nothing for you." How can I support and protect my sister without giving BIL impression that I am against him? How can I keep from doing the same thing my inlaws did to hurt me?

Psalm 57 (a cry for mercy, refuge & praise)