Hello folks,

This is my parting shot, I promise. I will definitely not be back to these boards to interact with anyone. I can no longer take any of these posts! There are a few of you that have helped me in my journey. I thank you for that. Both FWS and BS.
What I am about to say will definitely PO some or all of you. If it does I am sorry, but at the same time I have never been known to be politically correct.
Here goes!

Trust me when I say this is not meant for all. It would take too many disclaimers to identify those that this is not intended for.

I see way too much justification of affairs on this board. I see this even coming from those that refer to themselves as FWWS. You all talk about how your needs were not being met for this need or that need. C**P! The fact that you could lie, cheat, deceive and carry on with total disregard to all those around you , is within you! I would bet you were not meeting the needs your spouse needed either. That is the person you are! It came out and reared it’s ugly head, but that is you, and you better find out why and fix it!
“But that is totally not who I am or who my spouse is”. More C**P, you or they just proved they are that person.

You had a choice! It is called divorce! “ Oh but I can’t afford it, it would crush my children, God does not believe in divorce, I am in love with two people, what would people think of me” More bs and justification!

It just happened, bull. You worked on it and you let it happen. You hid everything and led your secret life. You knew what was happening and chose not to stop it. You chose not to confide in your spouse what was going on in your life and marriage. You did not sit them down and give them in your face communication. “ I tried to talk to him/her, they do not hear me”. How about this,” Our marriage is falling apart and we need to get on it right now, without waste. I am losing my love for you and I am concerned. If we do not do something now, we will end up in divorce!” Too easy! Easier than lies and deceit!

Now on to the BS’s on this board. See FWW’s I will not let them off either. You better get your SH** together. We have made our own mistakes also. I see some of you as totally controlling and manipulative. Let me tell you first before you all think I am holier than Thou. I have royally F’d up my marriage over the last few years. I have taken responsibility for that and I am ashamed I could do what I have done. They deserve to feel loved and cared for. There should be nothing that comes between the two of you ever. There should never be a thought in their minds that someone can ever replace you! They married you! There was something there that has disappeared. Find it damn it before it is gone and cannot be found. They want to be treated as the only one. Start treating them like that!

I hope we all survive this, and we are on a better path!