My wife of 4 years revealed to me that she has been having an affair about a month ago. She assumed that i would want a divorce at that time. I didn't and kept communicating with her. While looking for separation agreements, i found this website. I told her that at the very least she owed me two things; one, To read this website, and two to come and talk to me. My job currently has us living a few hours apart. We talked and thought that we could salvage our marriage. For the first week after that and most of the second, things seemed to be improving and she seemed committed to working on our relationship. After the second week she said that it just wasn't working, she still thought about him and wanted to be with him. I've sent emails telling her how committed i am to making this work and that if she could just make it through the withdrawal stage that we could find the love for each other that we once had. She said that she needs time to think about what she wants. She has broken off almost all contact with me. When i do try to contact her, her responses are short, uncaring and angry towards me. I don't understand why she's angry with me. I love her very much and think that she still loves me in some way or she would have already been gone. I think i'm trying to follow plan A by being patient, understanding, supporting and non judgemental. I haven't told her family about the affair because i'm afraid that in our situation it would be the end. I can't seem to reason with her at all and here lately i can't even get her to engage me in any sort of conversation. Should i just back off and let her have time with absolutely no contact. I'm worried that if i don't bother her once in a while she will use the time to completely put me behind her. Any suggestions are greatly appreciated.