HI
It has been about 3 months in Plan B,and about 6 weeks since I last saw my ws (in court for child support).
My two teens do not want anything to do with their mother,but sister in-law asked them to write letters to their mom. They both wrote,and I mentioned about the financial mess she left us in,and to help out,but she has not replied,and does not care about anything as long as she continues her affair.
Is their anything left for me to do?
I just got back to work,and am getting a second job,so I can support the kids myself. I think it is time to move on in life without her in mind.

Determining when it's time to move on is entirely up to you. Personally, if you've not seen or heard from your wife at all in six weeks, I couldn't blame you one bit for filing for divorce and moving on.

I am sorry that things worked out this way for you. Good luck to you and your family!

holdsteady mr.steve...
for a couple of reasons..

let her stew with the letters a little and don't make any move till the kids process her silence....

you have time....
is she paying child support..if not back to court...
without hesitation...

ark

Both Dr. Harley and Penny recommend a MINIMUM of 1 year in plan B. But only you can decide. This is because of the time it takes for an A to die and the fog to lift....

Most agree that you need at least 2 years between relationships to feel emotionally ready for a new one.

It's really up to you.

Personally I planned for a 1 year plan B and will re evaluate at that point. It's hard but doable...

Hello again
I have not heard from ws in about 2 months now,but her sister said she is writing letter to my son.
Both kids do not want anything to do with her.
I have tried to talk to my son about seeing his mother,but he does not want to. The ws thinks I may be keeping my son from seeing her which is just the opposite.I wanted her at his birthday party in May,but he didn't.
My daughter wrote a letter to her saying she is through with mother,and has moved on.
WS won't help out with son's school,or medical expenses at all.I receive a small weekly amount child support.
She does not care about anything here at all. She left on May 1st,and is in a trance with om. I wont file for divorce.I dont want to pay for it,and I will wait.
The sister invited us to Christmas party ,four months away,but said I might feel awkward with ws there. It seems the sister is telling me ws has no desire to return if she is looking four months ahead already,and I would not go if there is no contac now. I am feeling better,and have to get second job.

My ws who left about 4 months ago wrote me,and the kids 3 letters .It is the first communication in 2 months.She said I was keeping the kids away from her,and helped them write their letters. Both things are false.She said she was here for the kids,not me,but still left.She said she does not plan on returning at all.She thinks she can call the kids,and everything is fine,but she has hurt them badly by
leaving.She said she should have left years ago,but she was the one cheating,and lying. I should have left,but stayed for the family. She said if our son needs any financial help for him to ask for it.I have asked the kids about visiting,but they dont want anything to do with her.She also said I should not have taken the Diamond ring back,but I took it so she dont sell it. She was no longer wearing it,why would she want it? She also said the kids did not respect her,and she didnt feel like she was part of the family anymore.She called the kids names when I was out on errands,and she complained about cooking too.We are all writing back.She still applies reverse babble,and twists things around,like this was all my fault. If I asked her to stay,and I leave,then she would not have been able to run around with om,and the kids,and her would be argueing alot.

hi
My kids are all done writing,and ws wont help out financially anymore. I will take her back to court to split costs for son's braces. She is lying about everything. She wont file for divorce,cause she does not want to pay.Communicating with her is a waste of time.