Hi all,
You are all great people who help here, thank you <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
WS started A 6 weeks ago (probably longer than that) any how refuses to end A (I don't want her anymore anyhow)
She has started the divorce proceedings, but now everything that happens with our son she wants a Legal letter drawn up.
both of us are broke, she borrowed 3.5K from her mother for the attourney. I am using an attourney from work for now, until I can get a family lawyer. She won't move out of the house, and say's she doesn't want to be there.But I don't understand her mentality. I want to go with my 9yr old to a movie, but she says not until there's a legal document first. It's soooo stupid.

..she IS nuts - you never needed a legal document to take YOUR OWN kid to a movie or anywhere else before - why now? She can go stuff it - take your kid to that movie. Today is Saturday - a great day to spend some time with your son. And believe me, she WILL attempt to use your child AGAINST you to hurt you in whatever way(s) she can, never minding or caring how much she destroys him in the process - it's coming - talk to your son and let him know (on his level) what's going on - get some good counseling as well if you're not already - I've seen it far too many times - my own case especially - the WS who no longer wants to be married will do EVERYTHING she/he can to RUIN their kid(s) and MIND-RAPE them - please save yourself and your dear son - she's going to crash and burn anyway - just don't let her take your son with her.
Sadder, but wiser today,
SDLOM

No, she cannot do this. She's yanking your chain and trying to get you to blow your top so she can have you arrested and removed for spousal abuse. Her lawyer is advising her to do this. She cannot require "legal documents" of you to interact with your so, nor can she legally restrict your acceess to him without a court order. Carefully document her bizzare behavior, secretely recording it on tape if necessary.

One of my employees just went through a D with a crazy wife. She started making all sorts of demands, claiming that he was an abusive husband and too dangerous to be allowed custory of their baby. She described a particulary bad fight, one that she'd brought a girlfriend in to "witness." My employee's attorney allowed her and her FG to tell their side and then put a tape recorder on the table and played the tape of the altercation for the judge. It clearly showed that she'd deliberately started the whole mess and he had tried to diffuse the situation. the judge then refused to hear any more allegations of abuse and summarily denied her petition for sole custody. Indeed, he awarded he man temorary sole custody with only supervised visitation by the mother and ordered her to undergo a psychiatric evaluation.

Tread carefully here.