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Hey everyone, Sorry for the long post...More info on my situation under "My story..."Post. THe Same questions still wander through my head. I had dinner with her lastnight and we had a great time but she is still going away for the weekend (read posts below) which makes it hard for me to enjoy the time I have with her. I am working my plan A but I am affraid I am missing something. THe A has been exposed to family and friends (actually one friend who now doesn't talk to her because WS is "thinking" about ending affair working on marriage). She really isn't hiding the affair at all. But the OM works as a DJ for a local Radio Sta. and his friends and co-workers are none the wiser. I have not spoken to him at all through this but I am considering calling him in hopes it will get him to back off. Is this a good Idea?...my fear is that it will get back to her and have the opposite affect. My mother in-law has also offered to speak with him and ask him the same. I want her to be at home with me on the weekends not out being single and running around with him. I don't know weather I should contact the OM as part of exposure...she seems more and more willing to commit each day but he is still in the background. please offer any advice you may have. she is leaving tonight for the weekend (I have to assume with him)should I tell her that I think it is not good for our marriage? Thank you again for your support... R. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />
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Yes I would tell her. Have you thought about plan B. It is hard but may be neccessary for you. You can not work on your M or R with OM still around. How are you doing? I think if my H went away for a wkend with OW I would end it right there. But that is me.
married 21
Together 26 -
OW 2yrs, he worked with her and found secret e-mail account.The first cut is the deepest.
just found out H is a serial cheater - total cut to pieces now- saw a D lawyer today.
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needless to say I am a mess...we have been seperated since April the arrangement is that she has house and kids M-f and I have the house and kids fri nite through monday morning. I am required to pay all household bills as well. Occasionally she has stayed the weekend but mostly she goes away. I want to break this mold so to speak...should I contact the OM?
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