I had talked to ex to confirm our plans for the Meet the Teacher night at our oldest's school (he's gonna be in kindergarten!) He said he was on his way home for lunch and will call me when he gets off work. 5 minutes later, he calls me back and goes, she packed it all up, everything that is hers, it's all gone, the house is empty. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> I was shocked. He had told me they had a nasty fight and she threatened to move out (not the first time she threatened this). This time she did. I didn't know what to say other than I'm sorry. I ended up offering my parents' air mattress for him to use to sleep on because I knew he hates the futon he has.

I went to pick him up for the Meet the Teacher night. We went as a family. well, not really, but it was the first time the 4 of us were together outside of our exchanges on Sundays. Afterwards, we hit McD's for dinner. Then I took him home. He showed me how empty the house really was and showed me the closet he had been working on (he's so proud of himself). Then we sat outside on the front porch, talking a little. He looked at me and said, I did my part. I need to fill this house up again. I looked at him, and asked, are you telling me you want me to come back? He said yes. Not this week or next but in the near future.

I honestly don't know what to think. I'm not sure if he was serious. His GF had just left him (left a note and as far as I know, she has not contacted him since). He's reeling. But yet, at the same time, we had been talking for a while now about how we never did find out for sure whether or not we could've worked through our issues. We both just gave up. I know this much - we both still need to address these issues. I'm not sure how that will pan out. Right now, I don't want to approach the subject because I want him to deal with his GF leaving so suddenly. To add to it, he finally admitted that he does still love me. Maybe we're on the road to getting back together? I'm not sure on how or where to start. The only thing that was agreed upon was taking it slowly. After 2 years apart, we need to get to know each other again.

What goes around comes around doesn't it?

I think you're on the right track... taking it slow. You're right, too, that after two years apart, you essentially have to start over. He's reeling, so now is not the time to be working on your issues. What do you want? Do you want him back? If so, here's a rare opportunity where a plan A after the spouse has gone (dissussing this on another thread) has a good chance of working.