There are so many songs out there that people can relate to. Some songs just seem to say more than others about their feelings and the events in their lives. I want to know if any songs are/were special to you during your recovery. Maybe they reflect your struggles or your victories. Maybe they say something about your sadness or happiness. Whatever it is, I would like to know some of the songs that you felt were talking for you or about you.

I have two at the moment. The first song was one I thought of just after D-day and I kept playing it over and over because I didn’t know what was going on.

Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers – I Need To Know

The second song is one that I don’t play as often as I did, but it still says things about me.

Evanescence – My Immortal

What are the songs that do/did sing for you?

I too, relate to music and song lyrics. Ask anyone I work with. For me"Save Me" by Queen says alot to me. The chorus says "save me, save me I can't face this life alone, save me, save me, I'm naked and I'm far from home". As I have said before, I feel that when my H had his A, he was both physically and spiritually far from home. There are some songs out there, too many to name in one place, that conger up such painful memories, I have to turn off the radio when they come on.

The new song by Staind....definitely

I’ve been strumming and singing these songs on my guitar a lot lately. I don’t know why I do it because it’s like self torture. I often break down and cry and can’t finish.

Creep (Radio Head)
Fake Plastic Trees (Radio Head)
Always On My Mind (Willie Nelson)
Open Arms (Journey)
Sometimes When we Touch (Dan Hill) - Mostly just for the chorus:

Sometimes when we touch
The honesty’s too much
And I have to close my eyes and hide
I wanna hold you ‘til I die
‘Til we both break down and cry
I wann hold you ‘til the fear in me subsides

And I’ll second Evanescence. Almost every song on that album gets me, but ww and I used to listen to it a lot so it has extra meaning to me.

Alanis Morrissette - you oughtta know

i used to play it over and over when i was in my "angry" stage.

The first time i heard "dry your eyes" by the streets i wept like a little girl.

Evanessence does it for me, as does Staind, particularily "been a while".

Finally, "not pretty enough" by Casey Chambers. gets me everytime.

Carolyn

"Our last time" by Robert Cray, from the CD "I Was Warned".

Dream Come True (Frozen Ghost) - This used to be "our" song. I listened to this in the beginning while I was in "mourning".

Forsaken (David Draiman) - This was the next song I found myself listening to a lot. The first verse is what struck a chord with me:
"I'm over it
You see I'm falling in the vast abyss
Clouded by memories of the past
At last I see "

Tourette's (Nirvana) - For the times when angry outbursts, and disrectful judgements wanted to come out of my mouth.

Down With The Sickness (Disturbed) - As our recovery progessed and the anger began to surface I found myself listening to this a lot.

Now I don't find there is any one song that I listen to although on really "good" days I find I listen to "Amazed" by Lonestar.

fG

Don't come around here no more - Tom Petty seems like a good plan B song <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

My recent fav lyrics:

Just a little bit sad...
Just a little bit blue...
Just a little bit lonely.

When its over and gone...
I'm reaching out for the sun...

And my life goes on and on...

And my life goes on and on.


"Just a little bit sad" by Trique One
-yes, it is trance music...leave me alone <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

TM

TM,

No one is judging you on your choice of music that helps express your feelings... sissy. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

My favorite song that I stopped listening to because I always break down when I hear it (now my kids fav too because they heard it so much)

Memories of us - Kieth Urban

Lyrics

Im gonna be there for you baby
I'll be a man of my word
Speak the language in a voice that you have never heard

I wanna sleep with you forever
I wanna die in your arms
in a cabin by a meadow where the wild bees swarm

I wanna honor your mother
and I wanna learn from your paw
I wanna steal your attention like a bad outlaw

And Im gonna love you
Like nobody loves
and I'll earn your trust making memories of us

I would have to say there are two songs out there that get to me everytime they are played

STAIND LYRICS

"Right Here"

I know I've been mistaken
But just give me a break and see the changes that I've made
I've got some imperfections
But how can you collect them all and throw them in my face
But you always find a way to keep me right here waiting
You always find the words to say to keep me right here waiting
And if you chose to walk away I'd still be right here waiting
Searching for the things to say to keep you right here waiting
I hope you're not intending
To be so condescending it's as much as i can take
and you're so independent
you just refuse to bend so I keep bending till I break
But you always find a way to keep me right here waiting
You always find the words to say to keep me right here waiting
And if you chose to walk away I'd still be right here waiting
Searching for the things to say to keep you right here waiting
I've made a commitment
I'm willing to bleed for you
I needed fulfillment
I found what I need in you
Why can't you just forgive me
I don't want to relive all the mistakes I've made along the way
But I always find a way to keep you right here waiting
I always find the words to say to keep you right here waiting
But you always find a way
To keep me right here waiting
You always find the words to say to keep me right here waiting
And if I chose to walk away would you be right here waiting
Searching for the things to say to keep me right here waiting

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SIMPLE PLAN LYRICS

"Untitled"

I open my eyes
I try to see but I’m blinded by the white light
I can’t remember how
I can’t remember why
I’m lying here tonight

And I can’t stand the pain
And I can’t make it go away
No I can’t stand the pain

How could this happen to me
I made my mistakes
I’ve got no where to run
The night goes on
As I’m fading away
I’m sick of this life
I just wanna scream
How could this happen to me

Everybody’s screaming
I try to make a sound but no one hears me
I’m slipping off the edge
I’m hanging by a thread
I wanna start this over again

So I try to hold onto a time when nothing mattered
And I can’t explain what happened
And I can’t erase the things that I’ve done
No I can’t

How could this happen to me
I made my mistakes
I’ve got no where to run
The night goes on
As I’m fading away
I’m sick of this life
I just wanna scream
How could this happen to me

I made my mistakes
I’ve got no where to run
The night goes on
As I’m fading away
I’m sick of this life
I just wanna scream
How could this happen to me



These just go straight to my aching heart when I hear them. I played "right here" for the WW last night and told her she should listen to those lyrics. She just said nothing.

This one kinda hits me as FWS...

Breaking The Habit

Memories consume
Like opening the wound
I'm picking me apart again
You all assume
I'm safe here in my room
[Unless I try to start again]

I don't want to be the one
The battles always choose
'Cause inside I realize
That i'm the one confused

I don't know what's worth fighting for
Or why I have to scream
I don't know why I instigate
And say what I don't mean
I don't know how I got this way
I know it's not alright
So I'm breaking the habit
Tonight

Clutching my cure
I tightly lock the door
I try to catch my breath again
I hurt much more
Than anytime before
I had no options left again

I'll paint it on the walls
'Cause i'm the one at fault
I'll never fight again
And this is how it ends

I don't know what's worth fighting for
Or why I have to scream
But now I have some clarity
To show you what I mean
I don't know how I got this way
I'll never be alright
So I'm breaking the habit
Breaking the Habit
Tonight

The A was my addiction... but not anymore.


Undo

Hey Seeking,
That song is wonderful, but you left off the best part. I get teary-eyed because these were a lot like what FWH said to me. He knows how much this song means to me. The other night it was late and we pulled up in the driveay just as it came on. He left the car running and pulled me over and held me while the whole song played. He says the words really say it. Funny thing is I liked the song before D-day, but had never really listened to the words. After D-day I found them I heard it and asked "did it really say that?" I found the words online and felt wow- he really sums it up. I read it to FWH and he was moved, too.

I must admit I do turn off the radio quite often when cheating songs come on. I used to sing them! blows my mind because now I get a little sick when I hear them.

Anyway, here are the rest of the lyrics. They make me wonder what he has to done to stretch her to the limits.


And I'm gonna love you like nobody loves you
And I'll earn your trust making memories of us

We'll follow the rainbow
Wherever the four winds blow
And there'll be a new day
Comin' your way

I'm gonna be here for you from now on
This you know somehow
You've been stretched to the limits but it's alright now
And I'm gonna make you this promise
If there's life after this
I'm gonna be there to meet you with a warm, wet kiss

And I'm gonna love you like nobody loves you
And I'll earn your trust making memories of us
I'm gonna love you like nobody loves you
And I'll win your trust making memories of us

Move...

YOu are absolutely right. I di forget to include the best part. Gave me chills just reading it :0) This song gives me so much hope...I just wish it meant more to her.

R.

Well, when we started to reconcile, the country song "Let's Be Us Again" became our new song.

The song "When I Think About Cheating" is one that made HER cry...because the first time we heard it she looked at me and said "I know you wish I had thought like that".

That one got to me too OWL at the end of the A... I still can't listen to it. I wish I'd listened to it BEFORE it started. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

Undo

You know one of the things that gets to me sometimes is how dense I was when it was all going on. She fell in love with a group that she heard on one of my Celtic CD's. The Corrs.

And the song she loved so much was "Runaway". I sang it with her several times, all the while I was imagining her and I getting away from the stress and the kids and such. But it turned out that SHE was singing it and thinking about running away with OM.

Needless to say, I'm not a Corrs fan now. LOL!

So sorry Owl... Hope things will be better for you.

Undo <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

My STBXH is a sex addict and I had an A. We are getting a D. I really relate to these two songs as how I felt in the A.

Gray Street by Dave Matthews]
Holy Water by Big and Rich