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For those in recovery, when you and your spouse make love, have sex, sexual fullfillment (whatever you want to call it) do you do it with your eyes open or closed?
Do you really try to look at each other and communicate with each other during sex?
Me (BS) - 38
Him (WS) - 40
DDay - 7/6/04
Seperated - 5/26/04 - 8/9/4
In Recovery
The Lord told me to Press On!
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Both, sometimes eyes closed sometimes eyes open.
BW-43
WH-48
DDay-6/17/05
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LU, how are you doing? Is recovery going well?
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me: FWW/BS 52 H: FWH/BS 49
DS 30
DD 21
DS 15
OCDS 8
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Faithful Follower,
We are doing really great. I still struggle but don't we all. My husband and I are trying to really concentrate on our communication that is why I asked the qustion.
We have put God first and that has made all the difference. We have always thought that we were putting him first but that has not been the case. We pray together every morning and most nights. We have really improved on the time we are spending on our relationship with the Lord.
Now we just need to work on getting in to the Word.
How are you doing?
Me (BS) - 38
Him (WS) - 40
DDay - 7/6/04
Seperated - 5/26/04 - 8/9/4
In Recovery
The Lord told me to Press On!
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Both. Initially, more w/ eyes closed or else I'd become so guilt-ridden that I couldn't finish or I would just start to cry (not very sexy). Lately? Eyes open & closed ... depending on what's happenin' (or if the blind-fold is on). <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> ha!
Whisper
FWW (me) 32 / BH 33
M - 12 yrs / 0 kids
EA/PA lasted 1.5 yrs
NC - 5/25/05 ... in recovery ever since!!!
"If you love something, set it free ..."
(Just glad I was smart enough to come back!)
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Doing much better here too, thanks. I am so glad to see you are in a much better place. God as the third point in that triangle is a holy marriage.
Faith
me: FWW/BS 52 H: FWH/BS 49
DS 30
DD 21
DS 15
OCDS 8
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