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Since me and the wife talk again. I would see what happens before I make any moves. Even it is only about the kids.
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I would see what happens before I make any moves.
You've been waiting 1.5 years now.
What is your plan, apart from "waiting"?
How long do you plan to wait?
What if nothing changes from as it is now?
What is different now than from how it was 6 months ago?
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I'm no trying to persuade you that you should get divorcd.
I'm trying to figure out what is your plan.
You've been registered for almost 2 years now and I don't see much of anything you have done in the way of Plan A or Plan B.
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Well for the last year or so I been in court fighting for my kids which lawyer made is worse going back and forth to court me and the wife have not been talking then only battleing as the the lawyers had us doing. Now we are talking.
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Now we are talking.
That's great!
But again, what are your plans for this marriage/relationship?
What is your plan, apart from "waiting"?
How long do you plan to wait?
What is your plan, if in 3/6/12 months time, nothing is different than now?
What is different now than from how it was 6 months ago
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Hey chris iam now divorce and didn't know it.I moved and did get the summos to go court for the final.
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hi all iam doing fine. ex wife wants to talk. i talk to her a little bit but i put my foot in my mouth by saying some thing about the om i dont know if he is still there or not but the ex didnt want to hear anything about him she got mad at me about it. she wants to talk to me again but i dont know if i sould.
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Go ahead and talk to her. See what she has to say.
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Talk to her...
BUT GET A PLAN! IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO HAVE A PLAN IF YOU WANT TO HEAL YOUR MARRIAGE POST DIVORCE!
Heckuva lot better than no plan right? If you really wanted NO plan, then you wouldn't be here right:)
Good luck.
Learn and re-read carrot and stick of plan A!!!!!
me:37 BS; s:7;
xh:38; OW:26;eloped w/OW 1 wk after D: 12/29/03. OC born 3/17/04. Happy! Blessed to be the mother of a wonderful son..great profession..Life's good!
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well we are now divorce. she wanted the divorce. but say she need to talk in person. i just have to be cool. and what is post divorce. re-read carrot?
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looks like the fog is lifting. i dont know if the om is there. sould i ask.
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Man, you need a plan.
Take charge. It's your life. What do you want? To forgive her and go ahead on your own? To be friends? To reconcile? To get rid of her forever? It's up to you, buddy.
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