Hi, all!

I don’t post much, but I’ve read quite a bit on this site. I would like to hear what others think.

Here is the situation:

D-Day was Sept. 26, 2004. WH and I have been together 17 years (half our lives), married 9 years. We're high school sweethearts. Plan A was October to end of December. Now in Plan B; I’m about ready for Plan D. WH may or may not have OC with OW. Nothing has been filed by either WH or myself.

Out of the blue, OW is e-mailing me. I haven’t had any contact with her directly since last October (10 months ago)! Ok, well, I e-mailed her about a month and half ago, as soon as I found out she had used my laptop when WH had it (before D-Day). I have definite proof! Anyway, that made me so mad that she had the guts to use the very computer that I am typing on now! I sent an anonymous e-mail, but I’m sure she must have figured out who was calling her a “Fat, ugly b****!”

It could be that she just finally got my e-mails and is reacting. Or maybe things aren’t so good in la-la land. She’s sent four e-mails in the past 24 hours. I haven’t responded to any. She’s not directly saying it’s her, but it’s obvious. With each one, it sounds like she’s more and more desperate to get a rise out of me. It sounds like she’s been doing a little electronic spying on me, too.

I’m thinking things must not be so good. Otherwise, why would I matter? WH and I aren’t talking. He moved more than 1,500 miles away; we were in the process of getting ready to move when D-Day came. I don’t know if OW is there with WH or not. I think not, though. Why would she take the time to create a fake hotmail e-mail address and spy on me and e-mail me? I would think I wouldn’t be worth the time to her if everything was peachy between her and WH. Any thoughts?

I’ve been debating on forwarding e-mails to WH so he can see what a horrible thing she is. But, then she would know that I’m getting them. (I may give them to him once we're D.) I don’t want to block because then she would know I’ve gotten them. Frankly, the e-mails bring a bit of smile to my face because it seems I’m getting under her nerves without lifting a finger, just living my life, not giving her the time of day! Rather funny, don’t you think?

Thanks for reading!

TH
If you sent me an email disrespecting me I would respond to you too and I have no history with you.

I have rarely seen contact ( particularly spiteful contact) between BS and OP deliver any benefits particularly after so long.

If you are in plan B and WH hasn't contacted you I suspect if he had an interest in you, he would have by now.

Are you enjoying your life in plan B? Going out, laughing seeing movies etc etc ?

I would forward them to him. It's his OW and she's creating chaos in your life.....time he have some of it. LOL!!

OW did the same to me. Seems she got bored with the WS and decided to put some of her 'fun' self into my life. I slapped it back to hrt with my 'reverse babble' that left her in the dust.

ex1:

PBR: Tell your H to stop contacting me. He is e-mailing me from your house. I want nothing t/d with him.

Orchid: What? He isn't here. That's a business e-mail. Now why can't you keep track of your affair partners? LOL!!!


OW (PBR) had the audacity to contact me on at least 2 out of the 3 wedding anniversaries while the A was going on. Talk about incensed! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> Well I let her have it on the phone. The nerve of the nut. Then I let the WS have it. LOL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

L.

bOb pure,

Yeah, I really don't have much interest in WH at this point any more. I'm sad that it had to end this way. I'm sad to know that he can't be the man that I need him to be. D is just a matter of me getting my act together and getting all the paperwork together. I'm really at the point that it's hard for me to imagine being with WH (this is a far cry from where I was in the beginning).

Not really sure that this is any reaction to my heat-of-the-moment e-mail to OW month and half ago, though. It's hard to explain without getting into details of e-mails.

I guess I'm just curious as to why OW is trying so hard to get my attention and bug me. It just puzzles me. If it is a reaction to my e-mails, why did it take so long to respond? Why is she so interested in my life after all this time?

Can you post up the contect of the mails ? A summary pehaps ? We may be able to help determine the purpose then.

Are you enjoying your life ?

Hi, Orchid!

Great reverse babble! LOL!

Yeah, maybe she's bored! Whatever!

It's a control thingy. OWs have a need t/b in control. Remember how the WS accuse the BS of being 'controlling'? They ain't seem nuthin' until the OW gets her claws into their skin.

In my case the OW wanted to control, something, anything. It was a sickness with her. Well I just wouldn't let her. At the beginning I didn't realize it, when I did, I learned how to send it back to her. One of my main boundaries was NOT to have the OW in MY LIFE.

L.

bOB,

Here is the first one (word for word):
"changed your name to one that isnt even yours- thats sooooo completely pathetic!!!!!!!!!!!!"

I've hyphenated my last name, adding on my husband's. (I know, some think the hyphenation thing is a bit snotty or whatever, but it was meant to show my acceptance of him/joining with him but also keep my cultural identity. It's a mixed-race marriage. By the way, before we married, he was going to take my last name and hyphenate his as well, but never got around to the legal steps.) Anyway, OW thinks WH and I are not married because we got married in Jamaica. I've talked to three lawyers and state and county officials here: It's legal! I think she's just trying to justify her actions and pretend it isn't an affair.

And yes, I'm keeping busy and living my life! It's been a struggle. I was in a real tailspin. But I'm now at far more peace than before!

Yeah, like I said, she just seems so desperate to get me to respond. I think she would like to control me. Not going to happen, though. Awww, poor OW. What's is she to do? LOL! Or should I saw poor WH? He's the one that really has deal with her.