This is my story. I would really like to hear what you all think of this. I was in a 7-year relationship (lesbian couple). It's been 5 weeks and she hasnt even tryed to contact me.

Ok the story. She began disappearing on the weekends to stay at her moms or her friend from high schools house. I started to notice a telephone usage pattern. She began getting weird when I was in the same room with her while she was on the phone. I began drilling her about it. I got jealous. We broke up. Actually I am the one that told her it was over and that I wanted to see other people. She said fine and hung up on me. She than told me she need her space. She needs to find herself. I did not understand this. She did not explain to me exactly what I need to do to give her space. She said lets be friends. That’s all we were anyways for all of these years. She didn’t want to work on us. She wants to work on her. She than began saying stuff like what if I start dating other people. Are you going to be able to handle it?

Things started to get worse. For weeks since June to July 21s she started disappearing. She didn’t come home from work. She stopped calling me all of the time. She was still having those phone calls. Spending the night at her hs freinds house every weekend or at her mother’s so she said. She would get defensive with me anytime I tried to talk to about what was going on. She told me to leave her and alone and give her her space. It’s none of my business who she is talking to or where she is going. During our vacation July 3 – July 10 she disappeared the entire week. Said she was staying at her moms July 3 and 4th. Said she was going to her hs freinds party on the 9th. I was so hurt. I started smoking, became obessed with what she was doing.

Finally I broke down and on July 21s 2005 I contacted her mother crying. Her mother told me that her daughter told her that I was the one running around with my friends every night while my ex sat all alone in the house. She told her mom I yelled and screamed at her and said I didn’t like her. Said I wanted her out of the house. I never did any of those things. She did all of those things. Saying she was going to leave. Her mom also told me she hasn’t stayed at her house since Easter. So that means father’s day weekend she lied about staying at her mom’s house to bake. My ex says she stayed at hs friends house b/c she got tired of me flipping out of where she was going. That’s a lie. We didn’t break up until the 20th. .

Yea right. I contacted the ow who is the one I think my ex is seeing. She is a 22 year old bi-sexual girl. Her mom told me her daughter mentions the ow a lot. the ow hung up on me. 10 minutes later my ex calls screaming at me. I heard a female voice in the background and it sounded like the ow. ex told me she was with her co-worker looking at apartments. Yea right. So when she got home 3 hours later I told her to get out. She moved her things out July 22 and July 23. I left the house. The next day all of a sudden she is being nice. Wants to be friends. Says she needs to move out on her own for awhile. I asked her if we will ever get back together she says she doesn’t know. Whatever! I told her not to contact me for awhile. She is cold. I must accept the fact that she does not love me. She told me we aren’t compatiable and hasn’t loved me in years.

All the harsh words she said to me run thru my head constantly. "We arent compatiable" I never loved you, I dont want you, you need to find your own friends.
I think what really hurts the most is 5 years ago I had cancer. She went thru 3 surgeries and chemo with me. How can someone just turn their back. I am so freakin hurt.

She was obssessed with the darn phone. Wouldnt talk to me. When I cryed she would just look at me hard and cold. Asked me why I am so needy. Yelled and screamed at me.
I can't stop thinking about it. I am so hurt.

I looked at the cell phone bill she contacted the ow 190 times in a month and there were over 800 text messages sent and received in the same period. she was calling the ow at 6am. getting calls at 3am. of course she denied it. said she was calling "her friend" to get her up on the morning.

she didn't pay the phone bill that is in my name $800. all her phone calls now i am stuck with it.

ruby, sorry you find yourself in this situation. Did you have the phone turned off? Have you discussed how she is going to pay you back for the phone bill?

No I haven't talked to her in 5 weeks. The phone bill isnt the only thing. She skipped a car payment (car was in my name). She didnt pay lots of bills now I am thousands of dollars in debt b/c of her.
Honestly I don't want to talk to her. I have never been so betrayed and humilitated in my entire life.