Faithful Follower,

I am so sorry. I am praying for you! Look to God. He will always take care of you. I think that is what you would tell me.

Lifted Up

Why should she continue to suffer through this and hope for her marriage to be saved? I think that it is time for action for her. I just don't think that he can respect her or find it attractive that she continues to put up with it. I really think that she needs to ACT. I think that she should tell him that until the D is final she will think of them as married and give him another shot if he will abide by all of her terms willingly, but otherwise she should file for a D, bc this A and his actions will never end.

faith--i am praying for you and family....im sorry....

Hey Weaver! I am still tired and in a bit of shock. Full blown A is not what I was expecting. I sobbed on my friends shoulder when she came to pick up her kids last night. I am not ready for plan B yet. At least I don't think so. He does not know I have online access to his account. My secret and this time I will play my cards close to my chest.

mom, thanks for jumping in. I am not sure yet. I have been too quick to react before. Think I will take it slow which is contrary to my nature. I have til the middle of January for my attorney to still finish filing my D paperwork. I have time.

pep, I love this and am going to use this.

AAO, LU, Susan, Nikko thanks for the hugs and prayers. AAO, I am going to take this slow before I make a decision. I want him to squirm, KWIM?

Here is what I know right now. We did not talk last night as he did not come home from his trip til 3:00am. We talked on the phone after he left for work. LOL, I wanted to make sure lil OW didn't get her morning wake up call and I TOLD him he would stay on the phone with me if he knew what was good for him. Basically he claims to love me, wants to be M'd to me and is willing to do whatever I want to make it so. Knows this is an addiction that he has to beat. Now listen friends, this does not mean I have made up my mind to continue in this marriage. I am leaving my options open for the moment to see what he truly does. I finally hold the information in my hands.

What I need from everyone here is help to remain calm, in control and the one on top. No more panicking from FF. It is my way or the highway and I have the D agreement in my back pocket.

hee hee, I see my middle of the night adventure into TM got OW to call H. Hee hee, wonder how he squirmed his way out of that?

The TM I sent said, did he tell you about OW3? He had an affair with her after he found out your were pregnant.

Why not make this fun for me? I also changed his billing address to our address. Oh what fun!

faith---re-read your sig line.......lol

he knows about what needs to be done, and if he doesnt he knows a really good web-site that can help him navigate through it.......let it all go(i know, not easy and i was right there at one time also) and let him do all the work this time. sit back with a margarita and watch for a bit. let him actually do the work himself this time ALONE before you decide anything. let him show you, not tell you.....

this time its on him.........

Oh yes Nikko. My only cry for help this time is to help me not want to control the sit. I even asked him "do you know what you need to do?" He said yes. He knows and if he can't do it well the D is ready and waiting and FF will move on with her life as her kids mommy.

Oh the temptation to deactivate their phones was so great last night but tht would give me away. hee hee even for a few moments I like this feeling.

Reveal nothing of your plans to continue the D.

serene
unreadable FF


Plan A differently right now .... plan A to show YOURSELF how 'in control' of yourself you can be.

Your purpose at this time is to take charge of what is happening within yourself.

You control ~everything~ about yourself. what you say how much emotion you reveal how much you let him peek inside you

Thank you, Pep. That is exactly what I will do. I will have him confused. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> And yes I do get what you are saying about show *me* how in control I am. I need that. You know how easily I spin out of control. I am so thankful that I found all this out while he was gone. Took everything I had just to let him go to sleep when he got home. Can I put on some kind of Mata Hari outfit to go with my mysteriousness?

what pep said!!!!! yep! lol

[[[[[[FF]]]]]]

I was so hoping that he was doing the right thing for you.

Nothing I say can lessen your pain dear FF but know that you and your family are in my prayers every night.

Now do everything thats right for you & protects you.

Our love and care FF

AW & A2

FF, if you would like to call me or email me and get my number I will be glad to talk to you! I am thinking of you! hang in there!

Thanks bunches, MF4M I will keep your email handy.

FF......

Just read your whole thread here.......

All I can think to say is "KNOWLEGE IS POWER".

I know how to get into WH's credit card bill now (this is one he has sent to his now not-so-secret mail box), but I will have to change his password to get into it.

And when the time is right, I will.

The operative word for the day is serene. Calm and serene.

I'll be watching.....you're no idiot. That's for darn sure!!

((((((((((FF))))))))))

K

FF,

Just checking in on you. How are you feeling today?

Where are you FF? You really do have your head on straight. Just keep gathering ammunition and freak out with us. Control yourself and like you said, don't try to control WH. YOu want him with you by his free choice and hard work! Life stinks, doesn't it? Like your name, have faith that struggle and suffering is for good........