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my hubby said he was going for a party with his batch mates but I found there was no party and he went to some females place for dinner......looks like he lied to me.Am I over reacting by feeling and acting hurt???????????
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No, you are not, I think most people would be hurt if their spouse not only had dinner with a member of the opposite sex, but lied about it. It is a betrayal of trust.

That said, what do you mean by "acting hurt"? Communicating that this hurt you, and why is good. Seeing if you can get your H to agree to some groundrules for openess and honesty in your relationship is good. "acting hurt" by being angry, disrespectful of him, etc is usually not a helpful reaction.
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Am I over reacting by feeling and acting hurt???????????


Let me think about this.....NO!!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

You may want to post on the "Just found out" or "General Questions" under Infidelity. The fact that he went to dinner with OW and also lied about it....HUGE RED FLAG!

Good luck and God Bless!

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