Can one effectivley Plan A when shes living with him?

Daughter and I made the descion that she couldn't make. She said she probably would have stayed in the home, but she told me she wouldn't have stopped seeing him. Daughter and I couldn't take the cake eater anymore. She is so selfish and has been for years. she says shes sorry, but happy and content,for the 1st time in a while.
But they are still in fantasy land.

Plan A can be done while she is living with OM. You might also start thinking about Plan B, and give her a real taste of life without you.

FOGGGGGGGGG-
Big wave-
Focus on your baby- when does she go back to school- focus on that, your job, and providing stability for you and her. Detach from the sitch(I know its easier said than done) but I have to for my sanity and the kids.
I had a real eyeopener last nite- my 18 year old said"Mom"- enough- you are sitting worring about him- this is time for you. he knows you are sitting in the dark worring what he's doing - what they are talking about, is he thinking about you, etc. She said the signs were all there and you chose to ignore- stay in your own comfort zone. What you do from this point forward is your own fault- you are driving this ship. I need you to be the strong woman and mother i know you are and not this whining , person you are being.
She said- Wake up- Look at him and how hes looking- Hes not living with her- hes probebly at a motel and that cost money and he is running out of money- His clothes look like he still living out of the garbage bags he left with.
We are here and love you- get up , stop laying here, get out have fun - things are going to move and people want to help but the pity party has got to stop.
She turned and walked away and said I love you mom.
I sat there and the tears ran down my face.
I knew right then and there- the butterfly effect has begun- one flap of the wings has a vibrant effect over every thing else.
I need to stand up for me and the kids and show them that this too shall pass. ......

Believer, Thanks for input. I will plan b in time,but I'm early still in plan A.
Winter-thanks for the kick, I needed it. My 16 started school the day after we tossed mom out. Which is good, as she is so busy. And she made me feel so proud of myself that during an arguement about a month ago, she told WW that she was going wherever dad went, which made me realize that I was going nowhere. I stayed in thehome as not todisrupt her life. If WW needed space , we gave it to her. She is so far in fog land it's pitiful.
I am going on with my life and I will be a better man by going thru this crap. Maybe she'll wake up,mabe i'll still be there and maybe I won't

this is the first step...come on in the waters warm- you and I and all the other BS are going to make it. I may not be able to see the other side of this vas ocean or the mountaintop right now....but i know it's there.

Daughter and I may have not done the right thing in a lot of peoples eyes, but we are actually at peace with our descion.
WW told me she saw changes that I was making and the effort I was puttinginto saving us, but she couldn't do the same at this point.
Daughter said if she doesn't come back, some other woman will be lucky to have you dad. So I think I will continue on

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