I am trying to figure out the best way to handle the situation. It has been less than a week since the relationship with my H and the OW and since then he has been coming around more and calling, but nothing about fixing our marriage.
She has pretty much stayed out except for trying to get my H to pick up some stuff from her house. Well, I came across an email to her this morning - which meant they talked last night - to make a long story short. They met a work and my H was her boss, well of course they were not real discreet so rumors started about their relationship and what was going on. She then got pregnant so there were more rumors about my H being the father (I think he is not though). That my H and I are getting divorced because of this...etc. After the baby she went back to work, but at another location from my H. She started this week and I guess now the rumors have started up at her new place about her and what happened. So he sent an email and said do not let it bother you..etc.
My question is what is the best approach with a WS, maybe those that have been in this situation can help me, do I continue to take his calls and sort of pretend like there is nothing wrong or do I kind of blow him off so he is truly alone. I do not want to push him farther away, but I do not want to be a doormat either and have him feel like well, the OW is gone so I will talk to my wife and then if the OW comes back then I will dump my wife again.
I guess I want him to make a decision, but I do not know what is the best way of sort of forcing him to make one.
Thanks.
