My wife and I have been married for just over 9 years now. We have 2 kids that are 10. We got married young, I was 22 and my wife was 20.
We have been happy for the last nine years. I spoil her to the point where her friends and even her parents give her a hard time about it. She recently started her own blog and begged me to not read it and I agreed. About a month ago she let me know that she didn't like me being around as much as I was during the day. I understood and agreed to not come home as much during my work day. Deep inside I felt like there had to be something more bothering her, and of course about the same time she left her blog page, which I previously wasn't even sure existed, on our web site history. I took a look and was quite suprised at what she was saying about me. She was making comments that she felt herself pulling away from me and that even though I did everything right, to her it was all wrong. I pushed the issue about me not coming home eluding that I felt there was something else. She continued to insist that it was only the one issue. We had several good discussions about it and I felt like things were getting better. Then last night, I checked her blog again and she questioned whether or not she was "in love" with me. She said she couldn't stand to be around me anymore. She didn't find me funny or cute anymore and that she was no longer attracted to me. She said that she couldn't leave even if she wanted to because she screwed herself by not going to college and that she couldn't do it to the kids. Needless to say, I have been sick to my stomach all day.
I guess my main question is can I say something since if I would have respected her privacy and not read her blog, I would not have known any of this? Any advice would be so greatly appreciated. Thank you

Welcome to the site. Please take a moment to read throught the basic concepts of this site paying particular attention to the Basic Concepts and the Emotional Needs section. I'd recommend that you print out the Emotional Needs surveys and have you and your wife fill them out. While you may be wonderful, you may be missing filling one of her top emotional needs.

Another thing I would highly recommend is getting a book called "The Five Languages of Love". Read it and ask your wife to read it. Again, while you may be doing a lot of things right for a typical relationship, you may be simply speaking a different "love language" than your wife.

I would probably do all of this while not telling her about reading her blog... This is a great time to take initiative and seek a better more fulfilling relationship with your wife.

The only problem with bringing up something like that, is she is acting like everything is fine. It would definitely throw up a big red flag if I showed up with a book and a questionaire. There is nothing more important to me than to make this all work out. I don't know if I should leave it alone for now and see if it either gets better or if she says something to me about it. I feel like the only options I have is to deal with it, or come clean about everything.

Have you considered sitting down with her and asking her if there is anything wrong or if there is anything that she would like to discuss? Or you can tell her that some friends of yours have suggested the His Needs/Her Needs book and accompanying questionairres which you can buy at the book stores as a way to strengthen an already good relationship.

By the way, what is a blog? And can it lead to an inappropriate relationship with another man?

When we talked about her needing alone time during the day, I already read comments in her blog about her pulling away from me. I pushed real hard about something being wrong and she was actually saying she was getting mad at me for not believing her that there was nothing else wrong.
A blog is pretty much an online diary. She is always on a reality tv message board, and some of the people there have blogs and I don't know if they talked her into it, or if she came up with the idea to start one on her own.

It feels like there is more to it and with her not wanting you home during the day and her spending alot of time on the internet, that's a red flag. The Internet becomes the companion and it is no different than having a real life companion other than your spouse.

Tell her the truth about reading it, she may get angry, but you deserve to know where she stands and what her committment is to your marriage.

Good luck!

Doesn't she realize how absurd it is for her to post a blog on the internet (where billions of people can read it), but expect you (her husband) not to read it? She is posting her true feelings to the rest of the planet, but no being honest to your face.

You definitely need to let her know that you are reading her blog and that you know how she really feels about you, despite her "everything is fine" act at home. It's not fine, you both know it. You need to cut through this game (Radical Honesty) so that the two of you can get to the heart of the problem.

I am in a somewhat similar situation myself, so I can understand your feelings. It's a tough, lonely place. One thing that has helped me through so far is renewed faith in God, introspection and analysis of my own role in our relationship and working on changing myself (instead of trying to change her.)

Best of luck!