DD had another soccer game today. DS, his friend and I drove her to a field about 50 miles away. It was another good game. On the way home, we decided to stop and pick up from fresh sweet corn for dinner. And who should be coming out of the stand? WH and, I believe OW. Right hair, right build, right sticker from a school in that school district. WH got in his car, she got in her van.

Technically, I didn't break Plan B. I did scare the h*ll out of the woman. I leaned in her window and said, "Hi, OW. How are you doing homewrecker. I'm WH's wife."

She said, "I don't know you."

I asked, "Who are you."

She said, "I'm not telling you. If you keep bothering me, I'll call the police."

I said, "Ah, so you must be OW."

I have no recollection what else I said but know it wasn't profane or violent. I went back to my car for my bag. I wasn't leaving without my corn. By that time, she'd rolled up her window and looked scared. WH had already driven away. He didn't even say "Hi" to his kids. I did not speak to him.

As you can imagine, we're all a twitter here

Wow Grape I don't know what to say .....I try to imagine what would happen if I ran into OW but not sure I could be nice to her. I would probably end up in jail.....

How do you think WH gonna take this little meeting once he hears about it? I can only imagine that conversation they are going to have.....

Again wow.......

Wow. Guess that OW is peeing in her pants and getting it all over the upholstery. LOL!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />


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Technically, I didn't break Plan B. I did scare the h*ll out of the woman.

I love it. WTG One point for the betrayed spouses. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

In a way, I'm sorry I did it in front of the kids. On the other hand, the kids know that I am not a doormat and won't take it. There aren't too many secrets between us, only the inappropriate things. My son's friend got the license number. DS wanted to break a watermelon over her car.

One could almost be amused that WH cut and ran like he did. Got his squenchy, mad face and jump in his car. He couldn't get out of there fast enough. The winner of the conflict avoidance Olympics.

DS jumped out of the van and ran up to WH as his dad got into his car. WH didn't say a word to him. DS, who has a bit of a temper and is angry as ****** at his dad, had a very unproductive and unpleasant phone conversation with him when he got home. DS doesn't even want to talk to his dad anymore. He talking about getting student loans to finish school.

I'm sure the OW did have a reality check and I hope her upholsery is ruined. I'm sure she was on the phone to him for reassurance as soon as I walked away. What a b*tch. How can a person who is divorced and a mother to this to another woman and another family? I know, obviously she was the one who cheated in her family.

The sweet corn will be bittersweet tonight.

It's nice to fantasize that this will advance grapegirl's cause, but it truth, it gave WH more "proof" that you are the whacko out to get poor, scared, helpless little OW who's only offering love, love, love.

The best thing is to be blameless, so that OW and WH cannot pin the failure of the A on you. And also not to provide them food for conversation and a common cause against you.

And yes, for the record, you did break Plan B, in spirit and intention. Plan B is to unhook from the drama.

I know, I know. I do feel that I should have just walked passed him without a word. It's the first time I've seen OW. I really should have taken the higher road. But then again, I think that my kids appreciated me taking a strong stand. If I had simply walked away from, the message to my kids wouldn't have been good either.

I did not do or say anything violent or nasty. Both of them were confronted with the consequences of the affair. If you're going to walk around my town, you just might see us. WH could not compartmentalize his life with this one. Slimeball OW, BS, and betrayed children intersected with him in one location. You tell he sure didn't like it.

The best thing is that I felt galvanized by the encounter. WH is not going to be happy about the next step.

Now we know it's not all hard work and no play....

What is the next step you are referring to?

Grape Girl,

A heart-stopping moment, to be sure. I think you handled it fine, if we can assume that truly was OW with whom you had that little "discussion." And I think we can assume it was OW because if she was a total stranger to WS he would have surely stopped to talk to his own children, would he not?

Instead he high-tailed it out of there, spinning gravel. Caught. Red handed.

Sure sucks, though, for you and the kids.

~ Snow

Bravo

Grapegirl!!!

I think you did wonderfully!

I'll bet OW is mad at your H for leaving her there to deal with you!!!

Awesome job. Glad you got a license plate number...you never know if it might come in handy!

I'm also glad your children were with you.

Another time I may tell the story of how I happened upon my 1st husband and his OW...good thing I didn't have a gun!!

Do you believe in BLESSINGS? Isn't this a wonderful example of how GOD is in charge?

You needed to see this to help you through this process...

The more I go through this, the more I feel God's presence. I don't feel born again, or Sunday-go-to-meeting or any kind of missionary, uber-religiousness. I have felt that God has spoken to me on several occasions. What were the chances of WH, OW and my family coming together on this particular point of the planet? It was surely for a purpose.

If I had been 100% certain at the time it was OW, I probably would have been a little worse. The way they were walking together as they walked out and her physical looks made me very certain. She also had a bumper sticker on her van from a school. A little Internet search revealed it to be from a school in another school district...the district she lives in that's about 35 miles away. How many people drive 35 miles for corn? Her cagey attitude and the way WH ran like a ball-less, scared rabbit clinched it. If the woman had just said, "Lady, you got the wrong person." I would have backed off. To escalate directly into threatening to call the police is very suspicious. I imagine she spent the night at his place and was heading home to pick up her kids from her X. Corn for supper, kiddies.

Remember, yesterday, he wanted to do a big family picnic with his parents. I feel so validated about refusing to go through with that charade. What a _________! There are so many ways to fill in the blank.

Next step, lawyers and locksmiths.

Great decision for the protection of you and your children.

The purpose was fulfilled!!

Have Faith, Grape Girl. I am your witness that GOD WILL TAKE CARE OF YOU!!

So, I emailed my inlaws this morning to tell them about the soccer games. Also reported on the visual sighting of their son. Just kept it light and general. You know, the soccer game was good, DS came home for dinner, spotted WH and slimeball...

My Inlaws replied in a very sad mode. Apparently, they'd had a "bummer" of a weekend. WH had called them on Saturday morning to say that he'd worked really late on Friday and had to work all day Saturday so couldn't come down. He promised them to come down on Sunday, details to be arranged later. Well, they waited all day Sunday for a call but there never was one. I feel very sad for them. First, they refuses to come to DD's soccer game on Saturday because it would be "uncomfortable" for them. Now, their son stands them up. We didn't run into WH and slimeball until about 1 pm, so he had plenty of time to call his folks in the morning.

I think they might be starting to understand where I'm coming from.