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#1462063 08/28/05 09:06 PM
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fredswife is a new member. Her first post is at 'Resolving Conflict' I suggested she post here and on EN's for more input and help. She gave me permission to post a link to her original post. link-> going in circles
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After H dropped the bomb of wanting a D 8 months ago, I am slowly coming to grips with things. This has been the hardest thing I have ever dealt with .I have stopped fighting him about the divorce, I finally told him a couple of weeks ago that I have accepted his choice to end the marriage, and although I disagree I will not fight about it anymore. I only asked that we go through mediation because I would rather spend the money in the kids, then on divorce attornies.
Since then things have become worse.
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I know I can only work on ME, I have finally learned that I can not control him in any way, or make him change, or even see that he has issues too.
Our communication skills are greatly lacking and we keep going in circles.
I need it to stop.
I don't know how.
I have set boundaries, but he keeps crossing them.
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He has told me about a thousand times that he and his old high school friend are just "friends" nothing more.
Even though he spends countless hours on the phone with her and spends time with her.
(there's more in the original post)
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ghnl #1462064 08/28/05 09:09 PM
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Well, of course, he is having an affair. So don't listen to anything he says.

It is time for you to start Plan A. You can read all about it here.

Is his "friend" married too?


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