TO MAKE A LONG STORY SHORT....
H RECEIVED AN EMAIL ABOUT 2 YEARS AGO FROM OLD HIGH SCHOOL GIRLFRIEND. H RESPONDED AND SO BEGAN THE CONTACT, PHONE CALLS, EMAILS, PHONE CARDS, SECRET VISITS, ETC. I WAS NEVER ALLOWED TO READ THE FIRST EMAIL. H ACTUALLY ADMITTED THAT HE WISHES HE WOULD HAVE LET ME READ IT AND HAD HANDLED THIS DIFFERENTLY
WHEN HE WAS CONFRONTED ABOUT THIS BY ME, HE SAID THAT THEY WERE JUST FRIENDS, AND USED TO BE REALLY CLOSE. SHE UNDERSTANDS HIM AND THEY CAN TALK ABOUT ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING.
I WAS TOLD SHE WAS HAPPILY MARRIED AND THAT HER H HAD NO ISSUES WITH THEIR CONTACT.
I ACTUALLY ENDED UP CALLING HER ONE DAY WHEN THINGS CAME TO LIGHT AND SHE EXPLAINED TO ME THAT MY H IS HER BEST FRIEND, SHE FEELS SAFE TELLING HIM ANYTHING,AND THAT IF I HAVE A PROBLEM WITH IT I SHOULD TAKE IT TO MY H JUST LIKE SHE TAKES HER PROBLEMS TO HER H.
LITTLE DID I KNOW THAT SHE AND HER H WERE IN PROCESS OF A DIVORCE. MY H ANNOUNCED HIS PLANS TO D ME IN DECEMBER ONLY A MONTH LATER.
I FOUND THIS OUT IN JANUARY WHEN H LIED TO ME ABOUT A BUSINESS TRIP.HE REALLY DID HAVE A TRIP BUT EXTENDED IT BY 4 DAYS TO BE WITH HER.
I CONTACTED HER H AND HE SAID THAT THEY WERE IN PROCESS OF A DIVORCE.
I BELIEVE THEY HAVE BECOME EMOTIONAL CRUTCHES FOR ONE ANOTHER AND VALIDATE EACH OTHERS PROBLEMS.
HE HAS SINCE TAKEN ANOTHER TRIP TO SPEND A WEEK WITH HER.
HE SAYS IT WAS TO GET AWAY FROM ME AND MY NAGGING.
I HAVE BEEN TOLD THAT THEY ARE JUST BEST FRIENDS AND THAT I AM AN INSECURE JEALOUS B****H, THAT HE HAS BEEN FAITHFUL TO ME AND I JUST WANT TO MAKE SOMETHING SALACIOUS OUT OF THIS.
THAT I JUST CAN NOT GET IT INTO MY HEAD THAT A MAN AND A WOMAN CAN BE BEST FRIENDS.
7 WEEKS AGO HE MOVED OUT TO LOOK FOR A JOB, SO HE IS LIVING WITH HIS BROTHER AND SHE JUST HAPPENS TO LIVE 20 MINUTES AWAY.
THEY STILL SPEND COUNTLESS TIME TOGETHER, OF COURSE BEHIND MY BIL BACK. THEY EVEN WENT TO A MUSIC FESTIVAL TOGETHER FOR A WEEKEND, BUT I WAS TOLD A GROUP OF THEM WENT TOGETHER. BOYS IN ONE ROOM, GIRLS IN ANOTHER.
THIS DOES NOT SIT RIGHT WITH ME.
I WANT TO BELIEVE H BUT I DO NOT WANT TO BE A FOOL EITHER.
I HAVE ASKED HIM TO PLEASE END HIS RELATIONSHIP WITH HER, THIS WAS BEFORE D ANNOUNCEMENT, HE SAID NO, THAT I WAS TRYING TO CONTROL HIS FRIENDSHIP, AND THAT HE DOESN'T HAVE ANY OTHER FRIENDSHIPS.
I TOLD H I WANTED US TO GO TO MARRIAGE COUNCELLING, HE SAID I HAD ALL OF THE PROBLEMS.
SO NOW, AS IT STANDS, H IS 3000 MILES AWAY, LOOKING FOR A JOB AND LIVING WITH IS BROTHER AND HIS FAMILY.

SO, AM I REALLY INSANE OR IS THIS AN EMOTIONAL AFFAIR???

Doesn't anyone have any answers for me??

I'm relatively new here, but yes this is an emotional affair, and most likely a PA. Not trying to sound harsh, but if you read the other postings, you will see that this is the standard script for most WS's. Read through the site and check WAT's quick start guide for betrayed spouses. You may also want to try posting your questions in the general questions section as it gets much more activity. Hang in there.

He has been staying with her for the past few days under the guise that she has a computet and scanner etc that he needs to use for his presentation.
I did not react, I just said that is nice that she let you use her stuff.
The he told me that it wasn't any of my business anyways, and again with the I am just out to try and destroy him.