Well my life has been a roller coaster of ******...not fun at all lately. My husband is a truck driver and is gone for great deal of the time during the week, which I can live with and do not have issues with. It is when he is home and he chooses to spend all of his time golfing and drinking with his buddies...it is time taken away from me and our two children. I am home with the children after work all week and all the time on the weekend. I get that he wants some fun time to himself...but I feel used, unwanted, and any other negative word I can think of.
He said that we only do routine things at home, groceries, cleaning, nothing fun so there is no need for him to be home so he does what is fun and makes him happy.
I no longer want to feel guilty about not being "FUN", about having chores, responsibilities...We both choose to be married and it now he is choosing that he is no longer having fun at it so he won't do it anymore.
I no longer know what to do. I don't believe I should feel guilty but as the person I am, I tend to resort back to feelings of guilt and how it is all my fault.
Any advice out there for me???

Thanks!!!

Well, I would say to try and get all of the household chores done during the week and then spend some quality FUN time together on the weekends. How old are your kids? Can you go out for date night on Saturday? Start making plans for the weekend before he can.

Sounds like H is used to being independent. Perhaps you could ask to "schedule" the grocery buying, housecleaning and other chores that need to be done TOGETHER. Get them done in half the time allowing for more "fun" time. It is selfish of H to expect "everything" to be done while he is gone on the road and come home to just fun time. Life just doesn't work that way.

I recommend that you post this on the Emotional Needs board. It seems that you are not meeting each others emotional needs and that, left alone for a long time, can lead to even further deterioration of your marriage. The suggestions you have received are very good. But, you will get a greater variety of input from the people who post on EN.