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I have left my copy of SAA out, marked to the section on withdrawal......WS has read through some of it -
What are your thoughts on WS reading through SAA?? Good or Bad? WS said that he "just does not want to do what the book says."
Kimberly
D-Day May 14th
DS age 5
NC for 5 whole days/WS depressed
D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." Robert Brault
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Just found out today that, after several suggestions by me, my WH read through some of this website. He told me that he doesn't agree with this information and doesn't see how it could work. I asked him if he had any better ideas. Guess what? He didn't.
Of course he doesn't want to do what the book says. Give it time...I have a feeling the things that he read will resurface in his mind and start to seem more reasonable.
BS-28 (Me)
WH-28
Married: 06/05/04
D-day: 3/13/05 EA/PA
D-day: 9/22/05 PA
Together 5 years
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My WW read SAA over a year ago.It obviously made zero impact on anything from her perspective.
Reading is not the same as believing those truths
Believing is not the same as living those truths
Divorced:
"Never shelter anyone from the realities of their decisions": Noodle
You believe easily what you hope for ernestly
Infidelity does not kill marriages, the lying does
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Trying to force MB principles on a spouse, wayward or not, ain't gonna work. Just leave SAA and HNHN laying out in clear view.
Try and get some varification from your husband that he has noticed some improvements that you have made on yourself. Tell him you are working hard and have further slef improvment planned and ask him if he is willing to support you in this. Ask him if he will talk to Steve Harley about what things you can do to become a better wife in the future so that SH can effectively coach you in making your changes.
Me BS 44
XH 45
M 20 years
D19
D12
DDay 11.29.04
Separated 12.29.04
Plan A 24.02.05
Plan B 10.9.05
Plan D 2.2.06
Divorce 13.6.06
OW - former friend and D12's x-godmother (Skunkypoo)
OWH - philander, XH's former best friend (still shares skunkypoo with XH)
Anger = drinking a rat poison and waiting/wishing the rat would notice you drink it and the rat die from it.
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