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I am the only one in my office until Tuesday. If I go and talk to Chief I know I will break down and cry like a baby, how professional is that? There is nothing unprofessional about that. It is a realistic and natural reaction. You can't avoid telling people because you might cry. What do you plan on doing, jh? Letting your marriage crash because you were too worried you might cry if you tried to save it? C'mon. That is just an excuse.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Jaded -
We all went through what you are going through. It is fine to post and take your time to get doing it. I was horrible, and it took me forever to "get it". Although my difficulty was not in exposing the affair, but in looking out for myself, and not believe husband's words.
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thank you so much for saying that...sitting in my office sobbing right now..hoping no one comes in..ugghh, I hate this
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Chin up. We all know how miserable it is at first. You have only been here a very short time. I promise that you will get stronger, and be able to do what you need to do for your family.
Enjoy your time with your family this weekend. Make it a good experience for everyone. Watch your kids and their happiness. Realize that you CAN do this.
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I trust and have confidence that you are right.
I will take this weekend to enjoy w/ my family..who knows if I get my act together & expose soon, this may be the last happy, memorable time we have together as a family.
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Jaded -
You just registered on the 29th. Look how much you have learned so quickly. This place has a way of really changing you.
Keep in mind that most WS's do come back to the marriage. Very, very few affairs succeed. So that is in your favor.
Be sure to be confident and not clingy over the holiday. Find stuff to admire about your husband. That is usually one of the top EN's for a man.
You have a plan now, and he does not, so relax. Also be sure not to warn him what you are considering about exposure. And it is probably best not to get into relationship talk.
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ok .. I have been avoiding relationship talk for the past few days..hasnt come up at all but then again it wont unless I bring it up. H avoids it like the plague.
I always tell him how good I think he looks (even though he has gained 30lbs since he quit drinking and hates that about himself). He is still "hot" to me and I always remind him of that.
I havent been clingy..loving and inviting, like if he asks if I want him to sit on the couch next to me I always reply with "if that is what you want to do you are more than welcome" and he always comes over.
You have been wonderful to talk to..thanks a bunch.
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Just keep that admiration going. I know it is difficult. After D-day, I had an extremely hard time finding something to admire about WH, even though people here told me how important it is.
You can always admire what a good dad he is, how well he makes the camp-fire, what a great provider he is, etc. You can bet the OW is showing him lots of admiration.
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speaking of OW...she just texted me..."How's life treating you today?" should I respond or ignore her?
OH MY GOD !!!!
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Nervy little B, isn't she?
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that she is...she says she knows we can never go back to how things used to be but she just wants me to know that she cares and that I should never forget what a wonderful woman I am..puke!!!
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Yeah, you need more people that care for you like she does. Don't respond. Don't complain about her to your husband. Ignore her like the garbage she is.
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ok....I'm a little outspoken, but I would reply with a very simple text right back that says "F-U". And I'm not kidding, I really would.
Are you this nice to everyone???
Would you just please hand her the knife so she can stab you with it?
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I never tell him anything about her ever texting me and I definately wont this time either..I never even mention her name..her name isnt worth crossing my lips.
I know that if I bash her that will just make me less appealing to him ...correct?
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usually can find some good in everyone..PUKE !!! I make myself sick..but I am getting better maybe because I have become so Jaded!!..
ok..I am confused..F.U. or ignore? Melody Lane .. any input?
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well I am ignoring thus far..I would like to respond w/.. my life is great as long as you arent in it..let her know that she doesnt get to me?
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I don't know what to say, I am so flabbergasted that this woman thinks so little of you that she would send you a friendly page while she is in the process of destroying your family. To be treated so disrespectfully is just beyond my comprehension. I would whip her [censored] so badly that her grandchildren would feel it. I am at a complete loss, jh.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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jh, how did you ever get to a place where the OW, who is screwing your H and planning on breaking up your marriage, feels free to send you cute little pages? How did it ever get to this place where you are so utterly, shamelessly and openly disrespected? Have I entered the twilight zone?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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