|
|
Joined: Nov 2004
Posts: 1,407
Member
|
OP
Member
Joined: Nov 2004
Posts: 1,407 |
Damn, everything seems to have taken a turn for the worse recently.
What the He** happened?
Are Terrorist spiking the darn water supply? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />
I'm giving up on my WW, it seems like a lot of others are going thru the same ordeal.
Can anyone post something good about their relationship.
Mac
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Mar 2004
Posts: 1,842
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Mar 2004
Posts: 1,842 |
I started back to college today! I think that is pretty good news! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jul 2005
Posts: 243
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jul 2005
Posts: 243 |
Since D-day my FWH and I and the family have been spending a lot of real quality time together and are feeling the closeness that we felt at the beginning of our relationship. How about that? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jul 2005
Posts: 243
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jul 2005
Posts: 243 |
I have to say though, that I agree that it seems like everyone is coming out with more and more bad news...is it a full moon?
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jan 2005
Posts: 2,204
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jan 2005
Posts: 2,204 |
Good <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> After 9 months of recovery H and I are doing really well. there is love in our marriage again, and we see a really good future together. I have changed immensely since my A's and learned so much about my contributions to neglect, how I was feeling and how to communicate with my H. These changes are very apparent in the marriage now, as H and I can talk without fighting and actually solve little problems instead of letting them blow up. We each deal with our moments of hurt, but are both very in love and happy to have this change at making our marriage stronger. Life is pretty good for the first time in a very long time. And i do believe it's only going to get better <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jul 2004
Posts: 10,107
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jul 2004
Posts: 10,107 |
I think I'm falling in love with Squid again. I feel light and silly when I think about her. I left her at our holiday home with her sister today as I had to get home to work. She snuck a pair of her panties into my bag <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Is that good news ?
MB Alumni
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jan 2004
Posts: 1,246
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jan 2004
Posts: 1,246 |
only if you can happen to find her body attached to them Bob. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
9 years now ... and some days you still say grrr!
Hang in there.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Dec 2002
Posts: 15,310
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Dec 2002
Posts: 15,310 |
I feel great about myself and my relationship!
Thanks for asking....
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jul 2004
Posts: 10,107
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jul 2004
Posts: 10,107 |
Rk, I found Squid's body attached to them and quite distant from them several times this weekend ! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
MB Alumni
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jan 2005
Posts: 668
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jan 2005
Posts: 668 |
My relationship in recovery is better than any other relationship I have ever been a part of. I have a loving, strong, giving wife that is proud of me. And I am proud of her.
My feeling is that the world can go to h3!! in a hand-basket and all I really need is her.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Apr 2005
Posts: 748
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Apr 2005
Posts: 748 |
TA, maybe you should check in on the recovery section or romantic creativity or something... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" /> I for one, am optimistic about MY future. I may have found my own personal road to recovery, but my marriage has yet not. Infidelity is still an issue. So is growth, however painful, and growth whether on a personal spiritual or partner level is good news. Don't ja think?
Me BS 44
XH 45
M 20 years
D19
D12
DDay 11.29.04
Separated 12.29.04
Plan A 24.02.05
Plan B 10.9.05
Plan D 2.2.06
Divorce 13.6.06
OW - former friend and D12's x-godmother (Skunkypoo)
OWH - philander, XH's former best friend (still shares skunkypoo with XH)
Anger = drinking a rat poison and waiting/wishing the rat would notice you drink it and the rat die from it.
Redhat
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Dec 2002
Posts: 15,310
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Dec 2002
Posts: 15,310 |
I agree with Patriot.
What I love about my RECOVERY is that our R is better than it has ever been.
It's because I'm learning to be truly intimate with my H, open and honest in ways that I never was before...
The return back that he gives to me feels HEAVEN SENT...
My heart aches for those here that don't have this...
But this has taken hard, grueling and soul-searching work on our parts....
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Mar 2003
Posts: 2,903
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Mar 2003
Posts: 2,903 |
I'd like to think that there are many folks that just move on from the forum...either D or their M is recovering. Been here over 2 years and there are MANY names I just don't see/hear anymore. And at least every 6 months someone asks about the success stories...
They're here...in the archives...I promise...
Like in therapy...a counselor hopes to work themself out of a job...this forum hopes to not be needed any longer...
Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance!
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Oct 2004
Posts: 633
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Oct 2004
Posts: 633 |
On Monday the Judge ordered temporary sole parental rights and responsibilities and primary residency of my children to me. He also ordered visitation be at my choice. I think that is wonderful news <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> I am getting all A's this module in school. More good news! I am learning that talking to MIL/WH is my CHOICE and I don't have to do it to be the 'nice girl'. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> I think this good news thread is great!
H met OW- 8/3/04 while I was on vacation.
False Recovery- 9/18/04, 10/26/04, 5/11/05
H said he wants a DV and marry OW 11/7/04
Divorce final 10/27/05
Son-5yr Daughter-2 1/2yr
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Mar 2002
Posts: 1,781
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Mar 2002
Posts: 1,781 |
TA,
I'm 3 years post d-day and recovery is going extremely well.
Our marriage is better than it ever was and both my H and I are happy we took the chance to make it work.
We have both had a nice personal recovery as well from all the pain we went through during the affair, and afterwards.
I still have moments where I slip back into some bad habits, but I can talk myself down now.
What's happening with your wife these days that has you concerned?
"The actions you speak are louder than your words!"
Author unknown
"Miracles are seen in light."
From "A Course In Miracles".
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jan 2005
Posts: 1,253
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jan 2005
Posts: 1,253 |
Me, me...I have good news!
I start my new job tomorrow. Today, I went in and had to fill out all the paperwork and get fingerprinted. (And pay for the honor of a print check.) Geeze, the things you have to do when you work for the school.
I'm doing this job for ME. WH wasn't putting pressure on me but I needed to move along. I'll get paid to do the things with kids that I've spent years volunteering to do. I can get health insurance. I'll have life insurance, disability and a pension plan, all included. I made my kids the beneficiaries. The hours aren't going to distrupt my DD's schedule and I'll get out.
It feel weird and scary at the same time. I consider all of this to be good news.
Grapes are versatile. Grapes can be sour, sweet, sublime as wine and fabulous even when old and dried out.
Me: BS
XCH: Clueless
2-DS: Bigger than me
1-DD: Now also bigger than me!
5/6: Personally served CH with divorce papers
6/6: CH F? wants to time to see if M can be saved
7/6: FCH reenters our lives to work on marriage but secretly signs papers to start divorce...what's that about?
Mediation set for November
Final dissolution in January 2007.
2008 and beyond: Life goes on...
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Feb 2004
Posts: 274
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Feb 2004
Posts: 274 |
After 7 months of real recovery, FWH told me the other day that it was his responsibility to decide on two people to go to a work conference (one of whom could have been him). He already decided to reward a hard-working (female) coworker with the trip. He then said that having made that decision, he knew he was automatically out of the running.
"This may seem silly to you," he said, "but I've decided that I'm never going to put myself in a situation where I'm alone with a woman again. I'm not attracted to her in any way, but I'm not even going to enable a situation like that ever again."
Not silly at all.
G
Last edited by griselda; 08/30/05 04:16 PM.
BS (me) - 34
FWH (him) - 35
Married 15 years
D-day - December 20, 03
Recovered
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Dec 2004
Posts: 2,033
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Dec 2004
Posts: 2,033 |
My relationship in recovery is better than any other relationship I have ever been a part of. I have a loving, strong, giving wife that is proud of me. And I am proud of her.
My feeling is that the world can go to h3!! in a hand-basket and all I really need is her. Good news, you ask??? I'm feeling very fortunate today. Need I say more?
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Dec 2004
Posts: 2,033
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Dec 2004
Posts: 2,033 |
My relationship in recovery is better than any other relationship I have ever been a part of. I have a loving, strong, giving wife that is proud of me. And I am proud of her.
My feeling is that the world can go to h3!! in a hand-basket and all I really need is her. I just wanted to see it in print again! What a wonderful thing to say.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Mar 2005
Posts: 427
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Mar 2005
Posts: 427 |
I love it!! Will Squid mind if I steal her idea, naughty girl!!
Glad to hear you are feeling good. I need to hear it!!!
Formerly known as ItHurtzSoBad
Me-46,H-51
DDAY-2/22/05
Married 26 years
d-21,s-17
"If you have integrity nothing else matters. If you don't have integrity, nothing else matters." ~Alan Simpson
|
|
|
|
0 members (),
360
guests, and
55
robots. |
|
Key:
Admin,
Global Mod,
Mod
|
|
|
|
